What should I do to get my ex back? It's a common question after a break up, and also a tough one to answer.
You're most likely going through a roller coaster of emotions: sadness, depression, hurt.
You would give anything to have them back.
There are so many different books, websites, forums, blogs, and counselors out there to help you answer the question, "what should I do to get my ex back?", but unfortunately a lot of them have terrible advice and can actually make the situation worse.
I'm not a relationship expert, but I've seen what works and what doesn't.
Not only that, but I've been through breakups before and reacted in ways that made the situation worse.
And I've had the opportunity to test other methods through other breakups, to see if they actually work, and I can tell you first hand that they do.
First of all, don't play games.
This shows a huge sign of immaturity, and gives you a false sense of power.
This is a very quick way to make your ex think less of you.
While it might feel good to have some power after being broken up with, it'll quickly fade and make you feel worse than you did before.
This includes dating other people.
Your intent might be to make your ex jealous, or it might be a quick fix to make yourself feel better, but this won't last long.
It might make your ex jealous and instigate them to chase after you again, but often times it can permanently ruin things altogether by making them think you didn't care enough in the first place.
Either way, you won't know until after the fact.
Second, don't be a jerk.
Again that's only going to make things worse.
When your emotions are running high, they might cause you to act more aggressively than you normally would.
It's normal to be hurt, but if you're asking yourself, "What should I do to get my ex back?", this says that deep down you forgive them and you truly want them back.
Take a second to evaluate how you have been acting.
Imagine yourself in your ex's position, how would you feel? Would you be open and willing to talk to you, or closed off and not happy to see you? Have you been acting angry, desperate, jealous, or needy? You need to control yourself and your emotions, even if you feel like letting them all out.
Don't act on them if it's going to make your ex turn and run the other way.
These are just a few simple things to answer the question, "What should I do to get my ex back?" Be the person you were at the beginning of the relationship that made them fall in love with you.
Do your best to be happy, and let your ex see that you're doing well.
They'll notice, and it will give you a better chance to get back together with your ex.