What should you do when you develop feelings for someone you've been having sex with? For some men, sex and emotions aren't mutually exclusive. And for those that can squeeze the valve of their hearts during moments of pleasure, emotions often leak through over time.

If you are in the gay dating scene you know this. Various emotions and dialogue are often driven by sexual desire. But if you meet someone with whom you develop feelings for beyond physical contact, it may get complicated.

Imagine that you started hooking up with a guy and are really attracted to his personality and his life goals. You go out and have intimate conversations about life in general. You think you are developing feelings for him, but still feel you're just a late night romp call. The fear of telling him about your emotions is because you don't want him to back away. Should you be honest?

The uncertainty of what to give into—the strain of the heart or the needs of the body—always comes to pass. So, how do you know when to let your emotions flow free or when to let your body be?
There is a very short window of time just after sex and pre-nap when a man will share intimate details and life goals. When the sex is really good—in his weakened state—he'll reveal all types of close-kept details.

During this window it's easy to misinterpret this share-session as a bonding moment. Now, this doesn't mean he's full of woozy bull or that he doesn't feel a strong connection to you; it just means, post-sex, the average man's comments are made while he's in a fuzzy trance.

I think it's a chemical or something that's released just before cuddle time. And what makes this hypnotic state so dangerous is its tendency to wear off once the seas have calmed, which is why some men act one way when they're under the sheets and another during vertical living.

These post-sex windows are good to fish out details, but don't press too hard. It'll be difficult, but for a start it is good to keep your own feelings at bay. Over time, you'll know through his actions how he really feels about you. Is he being intimate outside of the bedroom? Do your conversations take paths that end without him asking you to romp? Has he introduced you to his friends? A man shows more of how he feels by what he does, not by what he says.

And if you feel like the late night menu, chances are that's where your relationship is, which is not entirely limping. Let things progress. Don't give him all of you if he's only willing to give half in return. Let him earn your words of affection. You'll know when he values your prize outside of an overnight visit when he starts displaying you like a trophy during the daylight hours. Whether this leads anywhere or not, only time and your circumstances will tell. That's why it's best to set your own limits, hold strong to your own things-I-won't-put-up-with list, and let him earn what you've been giving away for free.