When your boyfriend breaks up with you, it will likely feel awful for a while.
If you want to get your ex boyfriend back, you have to do one thing before anything else.
You have to figure out what went wrong.
Why did he break up with you? This question can be hard to answer objectively, however, you must do it.
Was it because you wronged him, say by cheating on him? Was it because he is just not that into you anymore? Did he drift apart from you? Answer as honestly as you can, because this is vitally important to getting him back.
If you want to get him back you will use a different strategy if you wronged him than if he is just not that into you anymore.
Let's say he left because of relationship drift.
This means he is just not that into you anymore.
This is one of the most common reasons relationships end.
One partner loses interest in the other.
What can you do? Is there anything you can do to fix this? Most of us figure that there is not much to do when someone is no longer into us.
And you are right to think so.
Recovering from relationship drift is one of the most difficult challenges there is.
Getting your ex back when they are no longer into you is very difficult.
But, in some cases, it can be done.
Here is what you need to do.
First, you have to find out why they are not into you anymore.
That is critical to getting them back.
Why do you think they are not into you anymore? Did you argue a lot? Did you stop showing affection? Did you stop doing fun things together? So the first thing is to consider why you think they have lost interest in you.
That is a good start.
The next thing is to ask them why they are not into you.
Call them up and have the difficult conversation.
Ask him what happened and why he is not that into you anymore.
There are ways to ask that make it more likely they will open up and tell you.
If you can get him to tell you - and that is not always easy, but often they will give you clues, then you know what you need to do to get them back into you.
Let's say they aren't into you anymore because they felt like you argued with them a lot and that you then withheld affection after the argument.
That is great to know! What you need to do is then wait a few days and call them back and convince them that you have taken what they said to heart and will change that behavior.
So, if you want them back, and you are willing to change to get them back into you, that is a great start.
The next thing is to convince them that you want to or have changed because of them, and would they give you another chance to show them you've changed.
If you are sincere, they may give you that second chance.
They will at least feel flattered that you want to change for them.
If you can hook your ex boyfriend by promising to show him more affection, he may be much more open to giving you that second chance.
There is more to getting your ex boyfriend back into you, but this is one key method for making it happen.