In order to get your ex-girlfriend back, you're going to have to work on her emotions.
In other words, you're going to have to make her fall in love with you again.
Unless she feels something for you, nothing you say or do is going to matter.
This is the biggest mistake guys make.
Immediately following the breakup, the only thing on the mind of an average guy is fixing the problem.
The easiest, and shortest, way to do this is by pestering them with phone calls and text messages.
Of course, deep down, they realize that this is the worst thing they can be doing, yet they feel powerless to stop.
In contrast, any guy that succeeds in getting his girlfriend back almost always has the ability to create attraction again.
Deep down, she must feel something for you - there's no getting around that.
But what is the best way to go about it? After all, she dumped you and it's unlikely that she's going to change her mind in the near future.
Yes, that's true, unless you are able to create desire and attraction so strong that she has no choice but to give in.
A tall order, but definitely doable.
Start by telling her you accept the breakup and apologize for anything you did.
Don't cave in and apologize for things you didn't do in an effort to appease her.
Stand strong and be confident - this is what she wants and this is what will create intense desire.
Note: the very worst thing you can do is to start begging her to take you back.
Once you start this kind of behavior, it is a really rough road back.
Give her some time to contemplate things - and there should be no contact during this period.
Try to forget about her for awhile (I know this is difficult) and find things in your life to fill the void.
This is a very good time to do a bit of self improvement.
Lose weight, go to the gym, get a new hairstyle - not only will this make you feel good, but you're going to look more attractive to your ex girlfriend the next time you see her.
After a few weeks, try to get her to meet you for coffee.
This is not a romantic date and you should be treating her just as a friend.
Be the person she fell in love with and simply enjoy each other's company without any strings attached.
Be cool and aloof and definitely charming.
Keep the atmosphere light and avoid any hint of romance.
Pretend she is someone you just met.
Creating interest, attraction, and desire is critical to getting your ex-girlfriend back.
It's also what will be necessary to maintain a strong relationship.