I am often asked to provide the secrets or tactics to get an ex back.
Obviously each situation is different so it is hard to be certain about what approach needs to be taken until you know the people involved.
It is important to recognize that it is never easy to win back an ex partner or friend.
Initially you have to take a step back and be prepared to forgive things that may have occurred in the past.
This might include forgetting or at least moving on from hurtful things that were said or done.
Some people will find this much easier to do than others.
This could be due to different personality types but there are also ways that some people find to effectively help them get an ex back.
Here are some examples: Look at yourself first.
It is important to build up your self confidence if you hope for your past love to have an increased level of desire.
There are various ways for you to build your self confidence.
This could simply be anything from getting a new haircut to buying some new clothes.
Maybe going to the gym or starting some exercise program will help transform you.
Remember this change doesn't have to be a physical transformation - it's all about feeling good within yourself.
Don't rush it.
Be prepared to allow them some time and space.
Time can be a great healer and it allows the opportunity for your partner to realize what they might be missing out on from your relationship.
Always be prepared to compromise.
Sometimes it might be worthwhile to let your partner win a fight or argument for the sake of moving on and improving communication.
Don't think of this as giving in or being weak as it's actually the opposite.
It shows maturity and allows both of you to feel like things might be moving in the right direction.
Don't forget that trying to get an ex back is just the beginning of the process.
You are actually trying to build a longer term future so that you can have a sustainable and loving relationship.
In these circumstances it's fine to lose a fight or two if it means you win the overall battle.
Another sure way to get an ex back is if you can recapture the loving feelings that you previously had for each other.
Do something that will make you both remember the good times that you shared.
What were the things that drew you together in the first place? Was there a specific place, hobby, or event that helped to forge your initial bond? Think of a way that you can highlight this positive experience or at least the emotions that evolved from it.
Maybe take some time to make a gesture that just shows you still care.
A small gesture can sometimes have a major effect.