Save My Unhappy Relationship - Start Practicing Detachment
In order for you to "save my unhappy relationship", you have to start practicing the fine art of detachment.
You might be asking "What is detachment?" Webster's Dictionary gives a few different definitions; but the one that fits this meaning is "aloofness, as from worldly affairs or from the concerns of others".
Aloofness is the art of "keeping a part of yourself from others" or "keeping to yourself even when you are physically in the presence of others".
When a person is detached or aloof, it is hard for others to read what they are thinking or feeling.
In other words, other people don't take detached or aloof people for granted, because they have a hard time reading that person.
If you are not giving off the "I want you, I need you, I miss you" vibes that most people going through a break up give off, your ex will wonder why you are not doing so.
They will wonder "Is s/he happy without me? Why is s/he happy without me? I don't want her/him to be happy without me! S/he is supposed to be missing me!" Part of saving your unhappy relationship is to learn the art of aloofness or detachment for, in doing so, it will put your ex off kilter and uncertain of you.
If s/he is uncertain of you, they won't take you for granted, nor will they automatically think that you are pining away for them.
Don't forget that a universal truth is "people want what they can't have" and if your ex is uncertain that s/he can have you, they will want you more.
They will think of you more often and wonder if you are happy without them.
If they think you are happy without them, they will start thinking that maybe splitting up was a bad idea.
Yes, it is a sort of "dog in the manger" attitude, but they don't want someone else to want you, they want you to want them.
Convoluted, I know, but that is the way it is.