Verbally Abusive Relationships
"I'm absolutely not in an abusive relationship - my partner's never hit me."
Does this have a familiar ring to you? Maybe this sentance or another one that's quite similar has been expressed to you by someone you are friends with, or a family member - or possibly even yourself. It's facile to attempt to justify a degrading partnership as "not actually abusive" simply for the reason that they has not resorted to physical violence, but does that really exclude it from the label entitled "abusive" relationships?
Frankly, the response is "No."
Relationships can be in many descriptions while never involving actual contact - for instance, verbally abusive relationships.
Verbally abusive relationships are when one of the members is often berating and condescending to the other partner. This could involve insults, calling names, disapproval, or sarcastic speech. In most situations, the relationships are simultaneously verbally abusive, which means, both members are verbally abusive to one another.
Even if the relationship is "only" verbally abusive (as opposed to physically), it can wear on a person's spark and can be incredibly unhealthy to be in. Days on end of listening to dismissive things regarding yourself, said in the most hostile and vitriolic voice possible, destroys a person's self concept. Then when that turns to year after year of being forced to listen to a never ending flood of verbal abuse, there can be harm inflicted on the person's self-esteem which sometimes is irreversible.
If you have a person (possibly yourself) who might be involved in a damaging, harmful relationship with someone who consistently dehumanizes them or yells at them, ask them to seek help before the violence gets worse. Your friend may have the opinion that it will never escalate to actual violence, and in reality it might or might not.
The main point is, that it's not important if it gets that bad or it doesn't. The hurt is being inflicted right now, one hateful word at a time.
Does this have a familiar ring to you? Maybe this sentance or another one that's quite similar has been expressed to you by someone you are friends with, or a family member - or possibly even yourself. It's facile to attempt to justify a degrading partnership as "not actually abusive" simply for the reason that they has not resorted to physical violence, but does that really exclude it from the label entitled "abusive" relationships?
Frankly, the response is "No."
Relationships can be in many descriptions while never involving actual contact - for instance, verbally abusive relationships.
Verbally abusive relationships are when one of the members is often berating and condescending to the other partner. This could involve insults, calling names, disapproval, or sarcastic speech. In most situations, the relationships are simultaneously verbally abusive, which means, both members are verbally abusive to one another.
Even if the relationship is "only" verbally abusive (as opposed to physically), it can wear on a person's spark and can be incredibly unhealthy to be in. Days on end of listening to dismissive things regarding yourself, said in the most hostile and vitriolic voice possible, destroys a person's self concept. Then when that turns to year after year of being forced to listen to a never ending flood of verbal abuse, there can be harm inflicted on the person's self-esteem which sometimes is irreversible.
If you have a person (possibly yourself) who might be involved in a damaging, harmful relationship with someone who consistently dehumanizes them or yells at them, ask them to seek help before the violence gets worse. Your friend may have the opinion that it will never escalate to actual violence, and in reality it might or might not.
The main point is, that it's not important if it gets that bad or it doesn't. The hurt is being inflicted right now, one hateful word at a time.
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