Lover Come Back - Or What Can I Do to Get My Ex Back!
Relationships actually begin as concepts.
Wow, he/she is going to be wonderful in my life and we will go places and do things together and be happy and be in love.
--Me After a breakup, keep the above message in mind as you begin your strategy to get your ex back! This is usually a time of despair and longing and inevitable urges that make you want to call every hour and chat or accidentally be in the neighborhood and stop by or maybe even spy on or harass your ex.
Take my advice and don't do any of that...
it will all make sense as you go through the process of grief that goes along with a breakup.
Another thing to consider is whether or not getting back with your ex is truly the best thing for you.
So if you want to either get back WITH your ex or get back AT your ex, the following steps will help you through the process.
1) Be Strong or act as though you are: Being clingy or begging or acting like a victim who can't live without the relationship will only make matters worse.
You want your ex to see you as a mature person who can be strong and move forward.
This may help your ex to realize that he/she has not and will give you a good position to plan your strategy.
2) Take a break: You want your ex to miss you and the best way to do that is by not being there...
no phone calls, no visits, no emails...
period.
Give your ex time to review everything without you being there.
Distance does makes the heart grow fonder and can sometimes work a miracle in itself.
3) Be considerate The time for demands and forceful actions are gone and will only cause resentment and anger, so focus on the subtle side of communication and be open to whatever happens in the moment.
I not saying that you will change your ex's mind, but this may help them see you in a better light than before the breakup.
Sometimes we do things out of habit and don't stop to think that there is another side to the story that is important tour relationship.
4) Get out of the house, apartment or office Socialize and right away! Now, I don't mean dating to get back at y our ex...
that's a no-no.
I do mean that laughing with your friends and family can help make a difference in how you go through this process.
Plus it will help to clarify for your ex that you are moving forward.
And, it's cheap therapy.
5) Be yourself Sometimes relationships get so intense that both partners forget why they loved each other in the first place.
Try to be that loving, adorable sweet thing that you are deep down inside.
And try to really love yourself through this situation.
I know it sounds corny, but when we are rejected we have a tendency to think it was something that we did wrong or bad or not good enough.
The truth is that if your ex wanted you to be different than you are, then maybe it wasn't a good match and you should reconsider the future with your ex.
If you've ever been through a breakup, then you know how stressful it can be.
With a little help to stay focused and approach your relationship from a different perspective, you can communicate your way into your lover's arms again!
Wow, he/she is going to be wonderful in my life and we will go places and do things together and be happy and be in love.
--Me After a breakup, keep the above message in mind as you begin your strategy to get your ex back! This is usually a time of despair and longing and inevitable urges that make you want to call every hour and chat or accidentally be in the neighborhood and stop by or maybe even spy on or harass your ex.
Take my advice and don't do any of that...
it will all make sense as you go through the process of grief that goes along with a breakup.
Another thing to consider is whether or not getting back with your ex is truly the best thing for you.
So if you want to either get back WITH your ex or get back AT your ex, the following steps will help you through the process.
1) Be Strong or act as though you are: Being clingy or begging or acting like a victim who can't live without the relationship will only make matters worse.
You want your ex to see you as a mature person who can be strong and move forward.
This may help your ex to realize that he/she has not and will give you a good position to plan your strategy.
2) Take a break: You want your ex to miss you and the best way to do that is by not being there...
no phone calls, no visits, no emails...
period.
Give your ex time to review everything without you being there.
Distance does makes the heart grow fonder and can sometimes work a miracle in itself.
3) Be considerate The time for demands and forceful actions are gone and will only cause resentment and anger, so focus on the subtle side of communication and be open to whatever happens in the moment.
I not saying that you will change your ex's mind, but this may help them see you in a better light than before the breakup.
Sometimes we do things out of habit and don't stop to think that there is another side to the story that is important tour relationship.
4) Get out of the house, apartment or office Socialize and right away! Now, I don't mean dating to get back at y our ex...
that's a no-no.
I do mean that laughing with your friends and family can help make a difference in how you go through this process.
Plus it will help to clarify for your ex that you are moving forward.
And, it's cheap therapy.
5) Be yourself Sometimes relationships get so intense that both partners forget why they loved each other in the first place.
Try to be that loving, adorable sweet thing that you are deep down inside.
And try to really love yourself through this situation.
I know it sounds corny, but when we are rejected we have a tendency to think it was something that we did wrong or bad or not good enough.
The truth is that if your ex wanted you to be different than you are, then maybe it wasn't a good match and you should reconsider the future with your ex.
If you've ever been through a breakup, then you know how stressful it can be.
With a little help to stay focused and approach your relationship from a different perspective, you can communicate your way into your lover's arms again!
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