The Magnet of Marriage
Every elementary school science classroom will have on hand a few magnets.
They are used in countless scientific demonstrations and experiments, and they're fun to play with.
Kids know this, but as adults, we tend to give no thought to the simple magnet.
Yet in the magnet, a marriage principle is at work.
Healthy and strong marriages have a few common characteristics, not the least of them being a level of intimacy and passion that is compelling and unique to every marriage, but absolutely essential for strength and force in the marriage.
In a strong marriage, the marriage magnet, like any other magnet, has an invisible pull on each partner.
The spouses in a marriage may not even be able to describe why they fell in love or what that pull is as the marriage goes on, but there is one, and it translates into a connection that is unlike any other.
This connection leads to passion, intimacy, physical expression of this magnetic force, and hopefully, a sexually fulfilling cohesiveness for both partners in the marriage.
But none of these things is completely possible if there is an interruption to that magnetic field.
Imagine two quarter-sized magnet discs.
Ordinarily, the bond between these two magnets would be so strong as to make it hard to pull them apart.
That's the way that a healthy marriage should be.
If you wanted to pull them apart, chances are you would have to wedge something between them, and this is what we tend to do in marriages.
We allow work stresses, children, "to do" lists, television, etc.
get in the way of our sex life and our intimacy.
Or, that wedge can be more subtle.
It may take the form of an emotional gap in trust or failure to communicate regularly.
Physical intimacy is a strong and driving need for every human being.
Untold numbers of books and articles have been written on turning that intimacy into a satisfying sex life, and while the authors vary on the elements they would include, fundamentally they would all agree on one thing.
There is a weakening of the marriage relationship when partners allow other things to wedge between their "magnetic field" of passion and intimacy towards one another.
So, if you are serious about improving the passion in your marriage, intent on increasing physical intimacy, and motivated to improve your sex life, then you must consider your magnetic field with your spouse.
Are the two of you clinging to one another, or is there a wedge? Wedges? Are you striving for a common purpose, focused on your spouse's needs first, and looking for ways to communicate with your spouse that are both verbal and physical? Both are necessary.
Start with these things, but continually be mindful of those areas where you can be weakened by wedges.
They are used in countless scientific demonstrations and experiments, and they're fun to play with.
Kids know this, but as adults, we tend to give no thought to the simple magnet.
Yet in the magnet, a marriage principle is at work.
Healthy and strong marriages have a few common characteristics, not the least of them being a level of intimacy and passion that is compelling and unique to every marriage, but absolutely essential for strength and force in the marriage.
In a strong marriage, the marriage magnet, like any other magnet, has an invisible pull on each partner.
The spouses in a marriage may not even be able to describe why they fell in love or what that pull is as the marriage goes on, but there is one, and it translates into a connection that is unlike any other.
This connection leads to passion, intimacy, physical expression of this magnetic force, and hopefully, a sexually fulfilling cohesiveness for both partners in the marriage.
But none of these things is completely possible if there is an interruption to that magnetic field.
Imagine two quarter-sized magnet discs.
Ordinarily, the bond between these two magnets would be so strong as to make it hard to pull them apart.
That's the way that a healthy marriage should be.
If you wanted to pull them apart, chances are you would have to wedge something between them, and this is what we tend to do in marriages.
We allow work stresses, children, "to do" lists, television, etc.
get in the way of our sex life and our intimacy.
Or, that wedge can be more subtle.
It may take the form of an emotional gap in trust or failure to communicate regularly.
Physical intimacy is a strong and driving need for every human being.
Untold numbers of books and articles have been written on turning that intimacy into a satisfying sex life, and while the authors vary on the elements they would include, fundamentally they would all agree on one thing.
There is a weakening of the marriage relationship when partners allow other things to wedge between their "magnetic field" of passion and intimacy towards one another.
So, if you are serious about improving the passion in your marriage, intent on increasing physical intimacy, and motivated to improve your sex life, then you must consider your magnetic field with your spouse.
Are the two of you clinging to one another, or is there a wedge? Wedges? Are you striving for a common purpose, focused on your spouse's needs first, and looking for ways to communicate with your spouse that are both verbal and physical? Both are necessary.
Start with these things, but continually be mindful of those areas where you can be weakened by wedges.
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