When a relationship that an individual is in seems to be going sour it creates a whole gambit of emotions.
Once the emotions get into a turmoil it's hard to even consider going about saving a failing relationship.
The first thing that needs to be done is try to put the emotions together but aside for the time being.
You are going to most likely be dealing with hurt, anger, frustration and guilt.
The reason I say put them aside is because first you have to determine in your heart that the relationship is worth salvaging.
If you are unsure about this then you are going to have difficulties in applying any methods that one needs to use when saving a failing relationship.
So now that you know that you indeed want to put every effort into making the relationship work you now have to deal with the emotions.
If you don't it will be difficult to get past the feelings they create in order for you to put together an effective plan that will work towards saving a failing relationship.
The first emotion you should deal with is the anger.
The reason being is because it will cloud your judgment and lean towards making you obstinate in accepting any changes or suggestions from your partner.
It will even stop you from identifying your own faults.
Then you need to deal with the hurt.
When one is in love and there seems to be the suggestion of rejection then hurt sets in.
This is what is often perceived in a relationship that is waning and that is each partner is rejecting the other.
If you can separate yourself from the rejection and see it as the faults or issues that are being rejected and not you then you will be much stronger in your attempts at saving a failing relationship.
The frustration comes in when you think you have made concessions when it comes to the issues of the relationship that are the problem.
Your changes may not be being received because it is not felt that they are sincere.
In many cases they may not be.
Often people will make concessions as a way of saving a failing relationship, and not because they feel it is valid.
The frustration is often partially composed of guilt as well.
Just because as we mentioned the actions imply that you are making concessions willingly but in your heart you resent them and this can be leading to guilt.
Now that you have some understanding of the emotions you can deal with them then get on with the job at hand which is working towards saving a relationship that you have already determined is well worth saving.
Your work is far from being done though.
All you have done here is the preliminary work for the beginning of getting a plan in order to get down to implementing measures to restore the relationship back to where it was in the beginning.