As a part of their marriage vows, couples generally promise to stay faithful to each other. No one vows to be untrue in their marriage. In spite of the promises, a lot of marriages keep having this challenge. When this happens, some form of confusion gets into the marriage. It is the response of the couple that would determine if they would stay together or not.

In our discussing coping with infidelity, those who have a single experience and those who have faced recurring cases are both addressed. It's needful to note that this issue requires to be treated carefully as a result of its sensitive nature. Would you counsel a person to stay in a marriage where the partner has been unfaithful repeatedly?

You have simply seen one example of marriage counseling questions that come up every time. Giving an answer that everyone would see as appropriate would be very hard. The truth is that you have to look within yourself and tell yourself the truth about what you actually desire.

There are two things here that a marriage therapist would be looking at and these include: the reason for the problem and what could be done to stop it and fix the marriage. One thing I have found out in counseling is that nearly everybody who goes for counseling has something they are strongly considering doing. All they want is someone to endorse their decision. However, if the result of that decision turns out to be not what they expected, the counselor who suggested this action would generally bear the entire blame.

In therapy, attempts are made at helping you set aside the emotions and hurt so you can reach your actual desires. As painful as it may be, the pain can heal with time. Don't make the mistake of making a decision that could affect you for the rest of your life on the strength of that moment's hurt. Many regrets have come about like this. You may have noticed that in when decisions, we usually discover that the decisions that were difficult and seemed painful were usually those that we would be grateful for in the future.

One thing I have mentioned severally is that a person would find it easier to cope with infidelity if they are certain it won' reoccur. If the issue is persistent, handling it becomes more difficult. Note that I said "more difficult" and not impossible. I would personally be really Interested in why the problem is recurring. It is my humble opinion that unless the couple can tackle the issue of why the problems re-occurs, that marriage would almost be sure of failing.

This is the reason why going for marriage therapy is very necessary. During counseling sessions, the underlying cause(s) of this problem can be isolated and a solution formulated. Accepting that There's a problem that has to be taken care of is the first thing the couple should do. Both the guilty partner and the hurt partner need some form of assistance.

It is important to never take a decision in anger. You would find a lot of broken marriages that got to that state just as a result of hasty decisions. We know you're hurt, but you can take some time to consult a marriage therapist before making a decision.