If you find yourself out of a relationship you once treasured, and would like to fix things up, be prepared to make a change.
First of all - where did things go wrong for her? Try to understand what emotions she may have been going through before you attempt to reconcile.
If she ended the relationship, it's likely her emotional needs were not met by you.
If you neglect one of her needs, she will be unhappy in the relationship.
Women need: -Trust, -Someone to support them, -Someone to appreciate them.
To win your ex girlfriend back, make sure you can show her that you can provide these things - not just immediately, but down the road as well.
I would advise waiting a while before making contact so that she can think things over and clear her head.
During this time you can go about your own business - don't forget to live your life.
Don't make her think that you have got nothing better to do than cry over her all day.
When you do try to re-initiate contact, try to do it in person.
Don't leave a million messages on her answering machine.
Sending her a hand-written letter is a good old fashioned way to say what you wish to say.
When you have 'The Talk', make sure you listen to her.
She will likely drop some clues as to why things were not working out - note these in your head.
Most importantly though, acknowledge what she says and show that you respect her opinion.
During this conversation, try to subtly show her you still desire her, without being too direct.