Parents often become extremely frustrated with their child when they fail to live up to the parent's expectations.
Parents may be come angry and put the fault of these unmet expectations on the shoulders of the child.
This is unfair because in most cases the child was set up for failure.
Not intentionally by any means, it was probably the parent's inability to communicate the expectations clearly.
Parents have to learn how to communicate just as a child does.
This may sound ridiculous, but as adults we are accustomed to speaking to people who probably have the same goals and expectations as we do.
When speaking to children, we have to remember they do not have our expansive vocabularies or life experiences to rely on.
Children struggling with behavioral disorders are also faced with limited attention spans and the inability to retain a lot of information.
These situations need to be taken into consideration when a parent is communicating to the child.
Children are not born with manners.
They have to be taught, just as we were.
The easiest, and probably most effective way of teaching a behavior is by role modeling the desired behaviors ourselves.
If you want to teach a child good manners, simply use them yourself.
This type of teaching is great for children with behavior disorders.
There is no lengthy list of directions.
It can be difficult to articulate behaviors into words.
When verbal communication is necessary, it must be delivered in a manner appropriate for the child's age and mentality.
Give specific instructions related to the task.
Do not leave the child with the task of deciding what your instructions may have meant.
Do you want to learn exactly how to eliminate your child's out-of-control and defiant behavior without using Punishments, Time-Outs, Behavioral Plans, or Rewards?