Marriage is not easy.
It's hard.
I am assuming that you know that too.
Ending a marriage is even harder, and being single again is even more miserable.
I have some marriage tips.
Tips that will save your marriage.
The first tip is to understand the problem.
Do you have a problem in the first place? Let's say you do.
Okay.
Fine.
At this point you might be thinking of a person.
Next tip.
Don't place the blame.
Placing blame is so tempting and its a trap.
Now if you are like most people you probably say to your partner you are their love of their life.
I hear you.
Stop it! I mean don't tell them you are the one.
Let them discover it for themselves.
Now here's another thing.
Don't apologize.
I mean you apologize for everything don't you!? Stop it! You need not apologize for everything.
Let it go.
Okay so now you know what NOT to do.
Now here's what to DO! 1.
Communicate! Communicate! Communicate! -Bad communication leads to bad relationships.
2.
Compromise! Compromise! Compromise! -Sometimes you have to give some slack in order to get some slack in return.
3.
Listen.
-When is the last time you actually listened to what your partner SAID! 4.
Let go of ANY bitterness or scorn.
-It's hard to do but if you can let go you may end up saving your marriage.
5.
Don't ever give up.
-People give up too easily.
Be persistent.
Okay so what if you have tried everything that I have written here and it doesn't work? Like nothing seems to work at all? Ask yourself this...
Why I am I looking for a solution to this? Take that answer and meditate on it.
Now if any of your answers are about YOU then STOP! It's not about you! If you answered anything else then you are one step closer to getting there.
Seek counseling.
Okay so you have tried marriage counseling and it doesn't work?! Maybe its time to research more.
Ask friends.
Ask relatives.
Ask your librarian for good books on marriage.
IF you keep searching then you WILL find an answer to your marriage.