Divorce Advice: Avoid Divorce by Holidaying Apart
Traditionally, September is a busy month for those employed within the 'divorce arena'.
Psychologists have claimed that, as a result of us spending upwards of 16 years of our formative years in school, we see September as a time to start afresh.
Others claim that people simply put off a divorce until after the summer holidays.
Now though, the owners of a UK website have put forward a new theory: marital tension coming to the fore during couple's summer getaways.
Experts from undercoverlovers.
com - the UK's largest website for spouses looking for extramarital affairs - have revealed that the number of new users registering on their site nearly doubled last week, with 69% of these new users naming an unhappy family holiday as their reason for joining.
According to the site's in-house relationship expert, Amélie Duval, the expectations of a week or two in the sun are often unrealistic and, if tension already exists within a marriage, then the ensuing disappointment can effectively become the straw that breaks the camel's back that leads one, or both, spouses to initiate divorce proceedings.
So, maybe warring couples would be best advised to avoid the summer holiday altogether.
If, indeed these trips are resulting in marital separation and divorce, then this would certainly seem sensible.
The summer holiday, though, is a chance to unwind and escape the stresses of everyday life, to recharge your batteries and forget about your problems.
Chances are that a summer sabbatical is just as likely to repair a damaged relationship as it is to fracture it, but if a couple genuinely can't bear the thought of time alone in another part of the world, then why not holiday separately? Some couples will read that last sentence and find the very idea absurd, but in a way, it does make sense.
We all know that it's healthy to spend and enjoy time away from our partners - living in your partner's pocket only causes arguments in fact - so holidaying with your friends instead would give you the opportunity to reap the benefits of time away without the risk of literally driving your marriage into the ground.
This will prove to be problematic for couples with young children, of course, but if it is in any way practicable, then each half of the marriage are likely to return from their trip de-stressed and energised.
This energy could then be used in order to resolve the problems that already exist within the marriage and avoid the divorce courts.
Makes sense, doesn't it?
Psychologists have claimed that, as a result of us spending upwards of 16 years of our formative years in school, we see September as a time to start afresh.
Others claim that people simply put off a divorce until after the summer holidays.
Now though, the owners of a UK website have put forward a new theory: marital tension coming to the fore during couple's summer getaways.
Experts from undercoverlovers.
com - the UK's largest website for spouses looking for extramarital affairs - have revealed that the number of new users registering on their site nearly doubled last week, with 69% of these new users naming an unhappy family holiday as their reason for joining.
According to the site's in-house relationship expert, Amélie Duval, the expectations of a week or two in the sun are often unrealistic and, if tension already exists within a marriage, then the ensuing disappointment can effectively become the straw that breaks the camel's back that leads one, or both, spouses to initiate divorce proceedings.
So, maybe warring couples would be best advised to avoid the summer holiday altogether.
If, indeed these trips are resulting in marital separation and divorce, then this would certainly seem sensible.
The summer holiday, though, is a chance to unwind and escape the stresses of everyday life, to recharge your batteries and forget about your problems.
Chances are that a summer sabbatical is just as likely to repair a damaged relationship as it is to fracture it, but if a couple genuinely can't bear the thought of time alone in another part of the world, then why not holiday separately? Some couples will read that last sentence and find the very idea absurd, but in a way, it does make sense.
We all know that it's healthy to spend and enjoy time away from our partners - living in your partner's pocket only causes arguments in fact - so holidaying with your friends instead would give you the opportunity to reap the benefits of time away without the risk of literally driving your marriage into the ground.
This will prove to be problematic for couples with young children, of course, but if it is in any way practicable, then each half of the marriage are likely to return from their trip de-stressed and energised.
This energy could then be used in order to resolve the problems that already exist within the marriage and avoid the divorce courts.
Makes sense, doesn't it?
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