How to Confront Her About Cheating
- 1). Think of what you'd like to say before you confront her. You may wish to make a list of all the points you'd like to make and rehearse them beforehand to avoid saying anything in the heat of the moment.
- 2). Confirm that she is cheating before you confront her. False accusations can seriously damage, or even end, a relationship. If you have proof, take it with you when you go to speak with her.
- 3). Find the right moment to bring up the infidelity. You may wish to lash out as soon as you discover the truth, but relationship issues are best dealt with when both people are calm. Plan ahead to ensure that you will find a chance to bring it up.
- 4). Keep your comments clear and concise to avoid confusion. Talk about the facts and any proof that you have discovered, and allow her a chance to talk about her actions. Listen to her explanations carefully.
- 5). End the conversation after both of you have had a chance to explain yourselves, and then allow yourself time to think. You will both need a few days to cool down and decide what step you'd like to take next.
- 6). Meet in a few days after the confrontation when you have both calmed down and had time to think. Discuss what steps you would like to take next, whether that is attending relationship counseling or ending the relationship. Make sure that your mind is made up before meeting again and stick to your decision. A relationship can only be successful if both people are committed to working through the issues at hand.