Change Yourself First and Create Your Marriage the Way You Want it to Be
Where are you today? More importantly where do you want to be five years from now? Are you creating your marriage the way you want it to be? Do you confide in someone that supports your dreams and visions or is it someone who would rather you stay the course and languish along with them in a lackluster life? Who are you choosing to spend your life with? Do they share your dreams and visions? You may need to begin with a positive change to yourself.
It is true that where we put our focus will determine our direction in life.
The information we pour over in books and magazines, how much television we allow in to our world and especially the type of programming we follow all plays a part in who we are.
Our upbringing as children gives us a general direction and as we get older we make our own decisions as to follow in our parents footsteps or choose our own route.
We meet people at all stages in our personal development who will each play a role in our formative years.
Some people we meet along the way become role models while others serve only to break us down.
Our role models lift us up, they encourage us, they give us a feeling of hope and possibilities.
The others that break us down often burden us with their own sense of lack in their lives.
Rather than working to make their lives better, these individuals choose to blame their troubles on external circumstances.
Both types of people will enter our lives at one time or another over the years.
Who do we choose to surround ourselves with? Do we put up with negative people and settle for a mediocre existence or do we choose to surround ourselves with people that help to encourage us in our quest for a better quality of life? The street runs both ways and I'm not an advocate of sending our friends packing because they had a bad day or a difficult set of circumstances.
What I do advocate is being the best that you can be as an individual so that your inner light will shine into the lives of others around you.
Create your life in such a way that you can be the mentor, the coach and the role model.
The people that see that in you will want it for themselves and be willing to take the steps to find that light in their own lives.
It is true that we can't change the person until the person wants to change themselves.
Choose to be the one willing to step out in faith and make the change in yourself.
Share your new lightness of being with others and watch the world transform around you.
It is true that where we put our focus will determine our direction in life.
The information we pour over in books and magazines, how much television we allow in to our world and especially the type of programming we follow all plays a part in who we are.
Our upbringing as children gives us a general direction and as we get older we make our own decisions as to follow in our parents footsteps or choose our own route.
We meet people at all stages in our personal development who will each play a role in our formative years.
Some people we meet along the way become role models while others serve only to break us down.
Our role models lift us up, they encourage us, they give us a feeling of hope and possibilities.
The others that break us down often burden us with their own sense of lack in their lives.
Rather than working to make their lives better, these individuals choose to blame their troubles on external circumstances.
Both types of people will enter our lives at one time or another over the years.
Who do we choose to surround ourselves with? Do we put up with negative people and settle for a mediocre existence or do we choose to surround ourselves with people that help to encourage us in our quest for a better quality of life? The street runs both ways and I'm not an advocate of sending our friends packing because they had a bad day or a difficult set of circumstances.
What I do advocate is being the best that you can be as an individual so that your inner light will shine into the lives of others around you.
Create your life in such a way that you can be the mentor, the coach and the role model.
The people that see that in you will want it for themselves and be willing to take the steps to find that light in their own lives.
It is true that we can't change the person until the person wants to change themselves.
Choose to be the one willing to step out in faith and make the change in yourself.
Share your new lightness of being with others and watch the world transform around you.
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