It's a scary thought to know that these 3 things are too common not to be noticed, but time and time again as the saying goes - history repeats itself.
Men and women who suffer from a break-up and want to do something quickly and immediately to win back their lost love, often fall prey to any or all of these 3 dreadful mistakes.
The end result is often their ex ultimately abandons them and replaces them with somebody else.
It's a hard fact to swallow but studies in relationships show that the more you try to get your ex back, the more they'll try to stay away from you! Especially if you don't know what you're doing.
1.
Texting, Calling and Emailing - Technology (while it has its own advantages) is a double-edged sword when it comes to failing relationships.
While it's convenient to stay in touch at a push of a button or a click of a mouse, doing this continuously even after a break-up only worsens the chances of restoring your relationship.
Think about it for a minute.
If you were "successfully" able to contact your ex, what usually has been the topic in your conversation all about? As I look back in my failed relationships, almost 90% of the time that I was on the phone with my ex partner, all the talk simply revolved around past issues, past circumstances and the possibility of getting back together again...
all of which annoyed and irritated him and brought him farther away from me.
It was painful to know that I was indirectly pushing him towards another girl from the behaviour that I showed.
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Begging - or pleading, however you may call it.
Remember that when you're not in the right mindset and your emotions are not functioning well, you're always prone to do things that in the end, you wish you haven't done.
This is arguably a classic case.
Rarely has anything been accomplished or granted when one begs or pleads.
If you beg for a job raise from your grumpy boss and plead your case with him, it's almost a surety that the answer would be a resounding NO.
The reason is again a painful one to bear, but it's obviously a major turn-off! It's like giving away your power and position to the other person and letting him or her decide your fate.
The same thing goes when you try to win your lost love back via that route.
It will do nothing but push your ex away.
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Apologizing - We were told during our childhood years to say "sorry" when we've done something wrong.
And there's nothing wrong with apologizing - even to your partner, especially when you're in the wrong end.
The problem occurs when you do nothing but keep on apologizing (and this is where it gets all connected) through text, in all your phone calls, in every email message you send, and in one of your "begging and pleading" speeches in front of your ex partner.
Saying "sorry" is ok, but you don't have to go all out and take the blame for everything that went wrong in the relationship - for the sole purpose of wanting to get your ex back.
Again, it weakens your position and is a complete turn-off.
It is clearly more beneficial to focus your energy on yourself at this stage so you can recover and "get back on your feet".
Take that much needed break, calm down your senses and bring your emotions into balance.