How To Get Your Ex Back - To Text Or Not To Text?
Most experts tell you that sending text messages to your ex after a breakup is a big no-no (I've been guilty of this myself).
So, are they right? I think they have your best interest at heart because there is some truth to not texting your ex after a breakup...
at least not for a while.
But to ignore texting your ex altogether is misguided advice that keeps you from using the most powerful form of communication you have in today's technologically advanced world...
your cell phone.
You see, it's not the texting itself that's bad.
The problem is most people text the wrong things and try to text an ex back in the wrong way.
When you try to text your ex back in the wrong way, you risk completely ruining the relationship.
This is why most relationship experts tend to advise against sending text messages to your ex.
It reduces the risk of things turning really ugly, but it also handicaps your recovery efforts.
Even simple texts like "Hi", "Yo", "Wassup", or "How's it going?" can be harmful when they aren't sent with a specific purpose in mind.
Michael Fiore, author of Text Your Ex Back, calls these "nothing texts" because they basically say nothing and sound like they were written by a 19 year old frat boy.
But texting does have its advantages...
How To Get Your Ex Back - The Advantages Of Texting
- Texting is personal, private, and intimate.
- Texting is nonconfrontational and unobtrusive.
- Texting allows you to stop and think about what to say before you say it.
- Texting allows you to rebuild attraction at your own pace, in your own time.
- Texting gives you access to your ex you may not otherwise have.
- Texting makes it easier to say how you truly feel.
Many people find it easier to text something than to say it on the phone or in person. - Texting gives you a greater chance of being heard.
Your ex may not answer if you call, but chances are they will read your texts even if they don't respond.
They have them with them 24/7.
This gives you incredible access to your ex and an amazing opportunity to reconnect and open their mind and heart to the possibility of being with you again.
But your ability to text your ex back will be determined by how you approach and respond to your ex through the text messages you send.