In the days following a breakup, you get to decide your fate.
Yes, even though you were dumped, it is still up to you whether you want it to be permanent or not.
This is a crucial time and the decisions you make are going to determine whether you get to spend the rest of your life with your soul-mate, or whether you will be forced to move on.
Here are 5 mistakes most people make after getting dumped: 1.
They decide to listen to their emotions and harass their ex with phone calls and messages.
This is going to put you in a very bad light and will make you look desperate.
Of all the things you can do now, this is the worst.
Many people ruin their chances permanently by resorting to this.
2.
They take it upon themselves to keep tabs on their old boyfriend/girlfriend.
They have an insatiable need to know what they are doing and who they are with.
Some may call this stalking, but that is such an ugly word.
3.
In a moment of madness, they lose their temper and tell their ex exactly what they think of them.
This is almost always born out of frustration after not making any headway in reconciling the relationship.
If you lose your cool and say some hurtful things, you may never be able to take them back and it may permanently ruin your chances.
4.
They decide that the best way to get their ex's attention is by parading another person in front of them.
This is not going to work.
Your ex is going to see through this "sophisticated" plan instantly and you are going to wind up looking petty and immature.
If you are going to use these tactics, you should at least make it appear real.
5.
You try to rally the troops.
If you are an insecure person, you may try to get as many people on your side as possible.
What this really does for you is unclear, because it is certainly not going to convince your ex to give it another go.
Some people even go as far as to spread rumors and get friends of the other person to turn on them.
Ultimately, no one is going to have any respect for you when they find out what you are really up to.