I am going to go out on a limb here and assume that your love life isn't going exactly as you had planned? If this is the case, then join the crowd. Everyone at some point goes through exactly the same thing that your going through right now. I want my girlfriend back, I want my boyfriend back are good motivating thoughts if you put them to use in the right manner.

The world doesn't care that I want my girlfriend back, they really don't. So why is it that we mope around and look pathetic to everyone we come into contact with. What you need to be doing is putting your best foot forward. Don't look pathetic because this will only reaffirm what you ex thought in the first place.

The first thing that you need to do is to come to grips with the fact that the relationship is over. At the very least it is on a temporary break. Once you can get a grasp on that then you can actually get everything put back together and get back on track. Remember your motivation for doing this: I want my girlfriend back or I want my boyfriend back.

What shouldn't I do:

1. No texting
2. No calling
3. No emailing
4. No accidentally running into them

The best way for you to win your way back into their hearts is to give them space. I know that this is not easy at all. I struggled with it and had to fight the temptation to call or drop an email.

Your whole goal in not contacting them is to create a desire for them to contact you. If you are constantly trying to contact them, then they won't miss you and start thinking about you in a more positive manner.

If you want to know what your next step should be...