Gay Life - Living Under the Same Roof
Moving in as one is invariably a big step, regardless of whether you are gay or straight. After you have been dating your partner for an adequate amount of time and you trust them and are comfortable in taking this next step with them, moving in together can be an exciting time. Sorry to say, there's more to making a relationship work than mutual love. Often when you live together, there are new strains on the relationship that weren't there before. This doesn't mean that you and your partner can't be happy living together, it just means that there might be some extra effort involved.
Cleaning and keeping tidy - One of the most universal causes of arguments are about cleanliness. If your partner is tidier than you, it's vital that you work a bit harder at keeping the apartment clean. Of course, there are always obsessive-compulsive neat-freaks that you will never be able to satisfy, you need to try to work with your partner to find a right balance so that the two of you are mutually contented with the condition of the apartment.
If you discover yourself in the opposite situation, where your partner isn't living up to your standards of cleanliness, you'll need to work something out. Perhaps your partner can be in charge of a few specific tasks. Maybe there is something your partner prefers doing, like cooking or organizing the bills. The key is to recognize and make full use of your partner's strengths. When living together it's vital that one person doesn't feel like they are doing all the work.
Paying the bills - As much as you love your partner, you should bear in mind that she should play an equal role to help with the house bills. It is unreasonable to expect one person in a relationship to support another. Ensure you can always pay your half of the bills on time, so as not to cause any avoidable tension. Be careful if your partner seems to be conveniently out of money every time the first of the month rolls near. Lending your partner money, or paying for your partner's portion of the bills can set a dangerous precedent. You never want to think of your partner as a financial strain, or worse, a useless bum.
Time together and time apart - One of the largest challenges of moving in together is balancing your time. It is still important for you to carry on the activities that interest you. Moving in with your partner should not turn you into the same person. Do not expect your partner to be there to please you all the time. You both should have different lives. Similarly, it is a problem if your partner suddenly becomes overly possessive and can't come to grips with the fact that you have your own life outside of him or her. It is important to spend quality time with your partner, however, giving yourself some time off from facing your partner is equally important.
Annoying habits - Regardless of how well you know your partner, moving in together will no doubts uncover some of his habits that you will find annoying. Like it or not, both of you will have habits that the other party can't stand, whether it's the loud snoring at night, leaving socks all over the place, or tidying up the bed. It's vital to bear in mind that no one is perfect, and there are most likely things about you that cheese off your partner as well. Try to look past these small upsets and focus on the positive.
Cleaning and keeping tidy - One of the most universal causes of arguments are about cleanliness. If your partner is tidier than you, it's vital that you work a bit harder at keeping the apartment clean. Of course, there are always obsessive-compulsive neat-freaks that you will never be able to satisfy, you need to try to work with your partner to find a right balance so that the two of you are mutually contented with the condition of the apartment.
If you discover yourself in the opposite situation, where your partner isn't living up to your standards of cleanliness, you'll need to work something out. Perhaps your partner can be in charge of a few specific tasks. Maybe there is something your partner prefers doing, like cooking or organizing the bills. The key is to recognize and make full use of your partner's strengths. When living together it's vital that one person doesn't feel like they are doing all the work.
Paying the bills - As much as you love your partner, you should bear in mind that she should play an equal role to help with the house bills. It is unreasonable to expect one person in a relationship to support another. Ensure you can always pay your half of the bills on time, so as not to cause any avoidable tension. Be careful if your partner seems to be conveniently out of money every time the first of the month rolls near. Lending your partner money, or paying for your partner's portion of the bills can set a dangerous precedent. You never want to think of your partner as a financial strain, or worse, a useless bum.
Time together and time apart - One of the largest challenges of moving in together is balancing your time. It is still important for you to carry on the activities that interest you. Moving in with your partner should not turn you into the same person. Do not expect your partner to be there to please you all the time. You both should have different lives. Similarly, it is a problem if your partner suddenly becomes overly possessive and can't come to grips with the fact that you have your own life outside of him or her. It is important to spend quality time with your partner, however, giving yourself some time off from facing your partner is equally important.
Annoying habits - Regardless of how well you know your partner, moving in together will no doubts uncover some of his habits that you will find annoying. Like it or not, both of you will have habits that the other party can't stand, whether it's the loud snoring at night, leaving socks all over the place, or tidying up the bed. It's vital to bear in mind that no one is perfect, and there are most likely things about you that cheese off your partner as well. Try to look past these small upsets and focus on the positive.
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