Sometimes there's a crossroad in a serious relationship, where it's do or die.
Here are some simple factors that can determine whether or not your guy is ready to settle down for good: His Age and Experience Level If your guy is 21 years old, or is otherwise very young, don't be naive and selfish enough to try and get him to settle down with you.
Also worth noting here is that a sophisticated older man isn't necessarily looking to settle down either.
In fact, he's probably less likely since he might be divorced and has no desire to try the marriage thing again.
A guy's age can give you a little bit of insight, but ultimately it's his life experience that is the stronger factor.
Is He Over All the Women From his Past? Is there a certain ex that he has a hard time talking about? Has he been madly in love before? Talk with him about whether or not he has any "ones that got away" type of girls that he's still hung up on from time to time.
It's very crucial that you do NOT act like a psycho if you hear something you don't like during this discussion.
He Found a Girl That Makes Life Easier, Not Harder Guys who have been through a lot of pain and bullshit in their dating lives eventually learn exactly what they do and do not want from women the might date in the future.
More importantly, a wise man can recognize a great woman who's a perfect catch when he sees her.
Once a person has had to eat so many disgusting fast food meals, they damn well better taste the difference when they bit into some Grade A Steak.
A mature guy who's grown up enough to not want drama in his life will appreciate a woman who not only adores him, but assists him and is there for him.
He Trusts You This is the most simple factor, because either he does or does not trust you.
If he doesn't, and it's your fault because of some cheating or lying in the past, chances are he's going to need quite some time before he even considers settling down with you.
He's Starting to Think About Being a Dad There is a certain point in a guy's personal growth where he begins to view being a daddy as a positive thing that he would like to experience.
When he's at this point in his life, he's definitely ready to settle down.
He Feels Secure in His Career A guy who has faced career setbacks and/or financial issues might be insecure as a result and not want to settle down.
He wants to be a provider, so if his credit score and account balances are numerical nightmares, don't expect anything serious like a proposal anytime soon.
On the other hand, if he's feeling good about himself professionally and is succeeding, he will feel adequate enough to settle down.
There's no Major Issues in the Relationship "Major Issues" refer to things a couple has wedged between keeping the apart.
They are usually problems with no easy or quick fix and sometimes end up being the deal-breakers for a couple.
Some examples of major issues that will keep him from taking the next big step with you: 1.
One of you has cheated and the bitterness and mistrust will never go away, 2.
He hates your job, or you hate his, 3.
There's major financial issues that the two of you fight over repeatedly, 4.
You dislike each other's families and/or friends.
These are the types of problems that are more than just a little difficult to fix, and if they exist in your relationship, chances are it's enough to make him not want to take things to the next level.