Fear plagues everyone. No one escapes its disquieting grip. Even in fairly stable and secure countries, people are afraid. We worry over pesticides and flu pandemics, global warming, and terrorism. While science, government, and psychiatry can deal with some of these fears, there are other fear-producing circumstances that even the world's most powerful military force cannot prevent, such as earthquake, flood, tornado, or a fatal disease.

How do you instruct yourself and eliminate these fears?

Overloading oneself is a common phenomenal. Just like an engine gets overheated when it is used to drive a higher load than what it was designed for. It will give way eventually if keeps in that unfavorable position for a sustained period. We should know what our individual limits are.

Sometimes your life gets to be like this overheated engine. You packed in so much responsibility and activity and commitment, and you carry so much unresolved emotion that you cannot take it anymore. The burdens and cares seem enormous.

When we get the signals of overload such as sleeplessness, irritability, and worry - it's time to do some off-loading. It is time to drop some activities and responsibilities. Learn to say no to some requests. This requires some techniques.

Do you find it tricky to say 'no'?

Many of us recoil from 'no' because we feel that there are more important things at stake than our wasted time. We fear the repercussions when we say no. Saying no occasionally can be advantages although these may not be immediate but they are worth a lot more than the instant fix of capitulation. Provided we do so with skill and sensitivity, saying no can win us as many friends as saying yes, and they may well last a lot longer.

There are 5 ways of saying no.
-Say 'no' at the beginning of the conversation. This will set the context and avoid any confusion.
-Put your refusal in context. 'I've managed to get tickets to a soccer match that's been sold out for weeks. If I miss this there won't be another opportunity.'
-Empathize to show that you acknowledge their position and are taking it seriously. This makes it clear that this is a refusal, not a rejection.
-Offer alternatives to move the conversation on to positive suggestions. 'No I can't repair your motorcycle this weekend because.., how about we enroll you in a bike maintenance course?'
-Practice to make sure you run through what you are going to say first so it is clear in your head and does not come out in a garbled fashion.

Stress management is a common keyword in search engine. Thousands get online to learn more about it. They refuse to be cowed or victimized by it. Stress in reality is our response to the situation, not the situation itself. Suppose you are stuck in a traffic jam, you can yell at others and beeped your horns. Alternatively you can view this as the only opportunity where you can sit back and reflect uninterrupted on the world around you. John Curtis of the University of Wisconsin Stress Management Institute says, " I believe 90 % of stress is brought on by not living in the present moment - worrying about what's already happened, what 's going to happen, or what could happen", on the name to many people.

Good news by phone and bad news by fax. This is the advice I got to avoid being castigated for bringing bad news. The fear of bad news is a common burden to everyone. If an unexpected event happened such as receiving a phone call in the middle of the night, you would naturally assume that is a bad news. While we may occasionally receive bad news, we don't have to live each day in gnawing fear of what might happen.

In times of conflict and defeat, we are forced to confess that we need a source of strength beyond ourselves. But it is hopelessly unrealistic to draw strength from our inner resources. The simple fact is that in and of ourselves we don't have what it takes to deal with all of life's pressures and problems. Even the strongest among use have weaknesses. We are susceptible to vacillating moods, sinful temptations and enslaving habits. To draw this inner strength, we need to believe in ourselves and call upon the power and grace of God.
A good night sleep is required for our body and mind to rejuvenate after a long day. However many different fears can keep us from getting a good night's slept, but for some people the fear of death is the worst. Even than, to get a few hours of fruitful sleep is a challenge for some. One way is to fantasize in your comfortable environment.

The fear of death is perhaps the greatest fear of all. The apprehension when facing death can sometimes draw strength from one who would have thought impossible in normal circumstances. Human reaction cannot be under estimated. But one can remove this fear of death by keeping faith in their religions.

Finally stop worrying and take the appropriate actions forward.