Is it possible to save a loveless marriage? If you're in what can sometimes feels like a loveless marriage, you may very well be asking yourself this question.
Sometimes, only one party in the marriage is asking this question, and the other party is not even aware that something is wrong, or they just want out altogether.
If you have concerns regarding your marriage and feel that you need to start working on it because it feels like the end is drawing near, then here are a few common sense tips you can use.
The first step is to try and take a step back from it and try to look at the overall situation objectively and without all the emotions.
This is defiantly not easy, but do the best you can.
A good idea is to write things down.
Try to figure out where and when things started to go wrong, and how could they have been averted.
If you have already parted from your partner, then do your best to minimize contact with them as much as possible this can help you analyse things more clearly so that you can get a more objective perspective.
It is important that you try and bare in mind that this is not about laying blame, but more about trying to get an accurate assessment of the situating.
Try to isolate the real reasons for problems you are having, not the symptoms, i.
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if one of you cheated on the other that is not the real the problem, but rather the accumulative results of other underlying issues that are lead to the cheating.
Once the "assessment phase" is over you now come to the "action phase".
The action phase consists of discussing with your spouse about what you've been analysing.
This part can sometimes be very difficult and is seldom considered to be fun so get ready for some strong opposition and also get ready to be strong.
Of course you should listen to what your partner has to say, but do ensure your voice is clearly heard as well.
Also being stubborn and dogmatic has no part in trying to repair a marriage so be prepared to change your mind or alter your stance if your partner brings up things that you hadn't thought of or realised until now.
Communication is the "lynch pin" to any relationships, whether it be friendship, work or marriage etc.
If your relationship has got to the point that it appears that you are continuously butting heads over every little thing, and neither side is prepared to listen or make compromises, then the question of "saving your my marriage" may not be a viable proposition.
But if you do see some progress regardless of how small then hold on to it, tight, because you may have some foundations to make things it workout.