NLP Basics - Their Model of the World, Ecology and Resistance
There are some basic ideas (presuppositions) that help NLP Practitioners understand and utilize the system of tools and techniques.
The first four have to do with the client's model of the world, the ecology of their issue and resistance.
Let's start with their model of the world.
When you are working with someone, it is best to see where they are "at" in their mind.
What is it that they have to believe for their problem to be a problem.
By entering into their perceived world, without being taken over by it, we can more easily assist the client to change their perception, if that is what they want to do.
It is a form of "pacing and leading.
" First you join them in their model of the world (pacing), then you can show them a different pace (leading), a different direction.
Their model of the world is very real to them, as much as it may seem to you to be inapplicable to reality.
It is their reality.
Let's now look at a "higher" level of our reality called "Ecology.
" Ecology has to do with what may happen to those around the person who has decided to change.
Ecology in NLP takes into consideration family, friends, organizations, all the way to the planet (to be as exact as possible here, there are actually no limits to the levels that we may affect in the Multiverse).
In any change work, these extended relationships may affect your client.
If there is resistance, it is best to face it upfront.
Speaking of resistance, another presupposition of NLP is that resistance in the client is a sign of a lack of rapport.
Many practitioners at first may feel it is a personal issue, but that is not necessarily true.
If one were to take this belief, that it is a lack of rapport, and work with it, they may find that there may be other opportunities available to "reach" the client.
A good question to ask is, "What other ways might I connect with this client?" Instead of running away from a perceived block, face it and see what can be done.
The solution may be found in a simple question, "I see you are not comfortable with this.
Tell me about that.
" This leads to the fourth presupposition in this article which is that people are not their behaviors.
I don't work with "learning challenged children," rather I work with "children with learning challenges.
" This simple linguistic separation of the person with the behavior is an aid to helping them break free of it.
Be aware when your client says, "I am ____.
" Watch for self-limiting beliefs.
It can help if you point that out.
Success requires a helpful, positive and loving inner dialogue.
Understanding that people are not their behaviors helps us not judge our clients, and in turn they don't feel judged.
Judgment is a perception, and our perceptions are projections.
Be aware of what issues and emotions your clients inspire in you.
We are actually learning and being healed when we think all we are doing is helping them enjoy life more.
The first four have to do with the client's model of the world, the ecology of their issue and resistance.
Let's start with their model of the world.
When you are working with someone, it is best to see where they are "at" in their mind.
What is it that they have to believe for their problem to be a problem.
By entering into their perceived world, without being taken over by it, we can more easily assist the client to change their perception, if that is what they want to do.
It is a form of "pacing and leading.
" First you join them in their model of the world (pacing), then you can show them a different pace (leading), a different direction.
Their model of the world is very real to them, as much as it may seem to you to be inapplicable to reality.
It is their reality.
Let's now look at a "higher" level of our reality called "Ecology.
" Ecology has to do with what may happen to those around the person who has decided to change.
Ecology in NLP takes into consideration family, friends, organizations, all the way to the planet (to be as exact as possible here, there are actually no limits to the levels that we may affect in the Multiverse).
In any change work, these extended relationships may affect your client.
If there is resistance, it is best to face it upfront.
Speaking of resistance, another presupposition of NLP is that resistance in the client is a sign of a lack of rapport.
Many practitioners at first may feel it is a personal issue, but that is not necessarily true.
If one were to take this belief, that it is a lack of rapport, and work with it, they may find that there may be other opportunities available to "reach" the client.
A good question to ask is, "What other ways might I connect with this client?" Instead of running away from a perceived block, face it and see what can be done.
The solution may be found in a simple question, "I see you are not comfortable with this.
Tell me about that.
" This leads to the fourth presupposition in this article which is that people are not their behaviors.
I don't work with "learning challenged children," rather I work with "children with learning challenges.
" This simple linguistic separation of the person with the behavior is an aid to helping them break free of it.
Be aware when your client says, "I am ____.
" Watch for self-limiting beliefs.
It can help if you point that out.
Success requires a helpful, positive and loving inner dialogue.
Understanding that people are not their behaviors helps us not judge our clients, and in turn they don't feel judged.
Judgment is a perception, and our perceptions are projections.
Be aware of what issues and emotions your clients inspire in you.
We are actually learning and being healed when we think all we are doing is helping them enjoy life more.
Source...