Okay, I admit it, I was dumped several times before I met my wife.
And, while it was painful at the time, I learned something valuable from each experience.
So, here are some tips that will hopefully help you to avoid being dumped as many times as I was: It Takes Two To Tango Breaking up is often so painful, that it seems easier to blame the other person for your misery, rather than accept shared responsibility.
But the reality is that if the relationship was no longer working, you were part of the problem.
Take the time to sit down and evaluate where the problems were.
Do this without blame or recriminations and don't let your emotional state cloud your thought process.
Women Need Their "Me" Time The title to this paragraph could also be "you gotta trust your lady".
Because there are few things worse than a possessive man who clearly doesn't trust his partner.
Checking up on her whereabouts, insisting she dress like an old lady, vetting her friends, reading her mail, may seem like caring things to you, but in reality it's the behaviour of an overbearing bully.
Women may initially see this possessive behavior as endearing, but believe me, when the first flush of romance has passed and she is thinking clearly, she will begin to feel smothered.
Any woman who has an iota of independence in her body, will want to get away from this type of man as fast as she can.
Allow her space and the freedom to do as she chooses.
If you don't trust her, she's not the one for you.
Time Is A Great Healer If the pain of a recent break up is still raw, you'll know that it hurts like anything.
But if you've been through it before, you'll also know that you will feel a little better by next week, better again the week after and at the end of the month you should have brushed yourself down and be ready for the next lucky lady to cross your path.
It Wasn't Meant To Be Not every relationship is going to end in marriage and children and it's only by going through the pain of a split, that you're moving closer to finding your ideal woman.
If you expect to find her at the beginning of your dating life, you'll be in for a disappointment.
It's only by experiencing relationships that were not meant to be, that you'll know when you find the right one.
Go For It Sitting at home watching television or playing computer games is not going to find you your ideal woman.
Getting out there, meeting new people, socializing in different circles, will all give you the best chance of meeting your soul mate.
It will also give you more to talk about and show her how popular you are.
If you follow this advice and learn something from each relationship, you won't mess up when you do find your perfect lady.
Oh and try and relax and have fun, the last thing you want to do is come over as desperate and needy.