Have you ever considered the possibility of having a "casual relationship" with a guy you're attracted to? Do you think you could get involved sexually but yet stay emotionally at arm's length? What kind of guy would fit the bill for this kind of relationship with you? Before you make the decision about a casual relationship, here are a few things you might want to consider.
There is no doubt that there is an appeal to casual because there are no real demands that come with it.
Guys are especially good at separating themselves emotionally.
For women, it may not be as easy.
A guy may think he's having sex, while a woman thinks of the act as making love.
So, you have to ask yourself if you really think that you can get physically close to another person and remain aloof emotionally.
This is quite different from having a one night stand where you're only interested in having a good time.
With a one night stand, there is not really any thought of turning it into a long term thing, so it's not difficult to remain uninvolved.
It's a lot different as soon as the word relationship enters the picture, no matter what kind of relationship it is.
The classic example of a casual relationship is the "friends with benefits" scenario.
If you've seen the movie, you know the relationship changed from casual to something more serious over time.
Fortunately it worked out for the story characters because we all love a happy ending, But don't think that all casual relationships end this happily.
What sounds like it could be a lot of fun for both parties can change in a hurry, especially for a woman.
And there are reasons for that happening.
For starters, a woman has a lot more trouble than a guy at keeping sex and love separate.
He's happy to get up and leave once it's done, confident that as long as he performed well, all is good.
A woman on the other hand experiences a feeling of closeness towards him, simply from the physical act itself.
This is natural and you're kidding yourself if you think you won't experience these feelings sooner or later.
When you find yourself thinking that you don't want the relationship to end, you know it's trouble.
Although he may be able to move on at any time without a second thought, the same won't be true for you.
The reason is that there is a naturally occurring chemical called Oxytocin present in a woman's brain as well as in her reproductive organs.
These receptors are what create the bonding that occurs between mother and baby when a baby that is breastfed.
Much the same thing happens in a sexual relationship making it much more difficult for a woman to keep it on a casual level.
Since you can't control the production of this chemical, you might just as well realize that it's going to be very difficult to pursue a casual relationship indefinitely.
Enjoy it while it lasts if you do go for it, but be prepared when your feelings change.