Are you sad about your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend? Even if it was a "good" breakup (meaning no major drama and nothing significantly bad happening) it can be tough to deal with.
It's normal to be upset over your ex in these situations.
When you're emotionally involved with someone, and all of a sudden it's gone, you feel helpless and alone.
I have had a few really bad breakups that have thrown me way off course to the point of not eating, not sleeping, being incredibly depressed, and all that comes with the territory.
One day I finally decided to say, "SCREW THIS! I'm not going to be sad and let my health, my happiness, and every other aspect of my life fall apart because of a stupid girl!" (No offense ladies).
No more being upset over my ex.
Luckily I had a little help from a book with some awesome techniques to use.
I also have a lot of female friends that go through phases like this when they get broken up with by their boyfriends.
Unless you really just don't care, it's hard not to be sad about your ex when these things happen.
I get so emotionally involved so quickly that it makes it just that much harder when things end.
So instead, I finally decided that I'm in control of my feelings and I'm not going to let a relationship mess with me that bad.
Instead, I was going to find the positive side to the situation.
The more I did this, the more I realized that maybe I shouldn't give up just yet.
There was most likely a reason I was broken up with, but first I had to determine what that reason was.
If it was a negative quality about myself, then I wanted to change it and not make the same mistake twice.
"A poor man and a wise man both make the same mistake.
The difference is that the wise man only makes it once.
" -Don't remember who quoted that, but I thought it was a good one...
Then I realized that maybe it would be good to have some time to myself, away from my ex, to reflect on what was going on.
When I did that I started to notice things I liked about myself, and things I wanted to change.
I also started to realize that just because we broke up, doesn't necessarily mean it's over for good.
I hear about people getting back together all the time, even after being cheated on! Not sure I would do that, but I hear about it.
The more positive I became, the better results I started having.
So even though I was sad about my ex, I made the conscious decision to turn things around and make the best of every day, and every situation.
Little did I realize what kind of effect that was having on my ex.
She started asking me if we could hang out again.