Get What You Want - Take Charge But Do Not Try Too Hard
I believe that asking questions to ourselves makes us grow and feel better with us.
So today my new question is: Have you felt invisible lately? We have all felt, at one time or another, unseen to the very people whose attention we want to attract: whether it's with family members, coworkers, friends or that handsome man across the room.
Maybe you've gone out to dinner with friends and noticed a attractive man sitting at the bar having a drink.
He's alone and he looks available.
Since you are too, you keep staring at him, hoping he'll glance your way.
The minute he looks at you though, your first instinct is to turn away.
Suddenly, this man gets up off his bar stool and heads in your direction! He starts walking...
right past you and to the next table to a woman who appears confident and strong.
You find yourself wanting to be just like her...
How did this happen? People are attracted to other people who either remind them of themselves or who they want to be like.
When you see a woman who seems to "have it all", you immediately gravitate towards her.
It's a natural reaction and it happens because you want what she has but don´t know how to get it.
You don't take charge enough.
You might be afraid to take charge and find yourself losing out not only on men, but on promotions at work and friendships.
I've done this on many occasions at work.
Only after witnessing my co-worker walk into my boss's office asking for what she deserved did I have the guts to ask for my raise...
how insecure is that? Since then, I've learned to believe in my talents and strengths without hesitation.
And incredibly more opportunities have come my way.
There is an opposite situation, when you try too hard.
Maybe you see men at restaurants and, rather than flirting with him with your eyes and body language, you immediately approach him without giving him a chance to register what´s happening.
You take him off guard and he suddenly feels cornered.
Your approach is way too strong.
You need to find the balance between subtlety and taking charge, so that you can learn to land on a man's radar before he has even met you!
So today my new question is: Have you felt invisible lately? We have all felt, at one time or another, unseen to the very people whose attention we want to attract: whether it's with family members, coworkers, friends or that handsome man across the room.
Maybe you've gone out to dinner with friends and noticed a attractive man sitting at the bar having a drink.
He's alone and he looks available.
Since you are too, you keep staring at him, hoping he'll glance your way.
The minute he looks at you though, your first instinct is to turn away.
Suddenly, this man gets up off his bar stool and heads in your direction! He starts walking...
right past you and to the next table to a woman who appears confident and strong.
You find yourself wanting to be just like her...
How did this happen? People are attracted to other people who either remind them of themselves or who they want to be like.
When you see a woman who seems to "have it all", you immediately gravitate towards her.
It's a natural reaction and it happens because you want what she has but don´t know how to get it.
You don't take charge enough.
You might be afraid to take charge and find yourself losing out not only on men, but on promotions at work and friendships.
I've done this on many occasions at work.
Only after witnessing my co-worker walk into my boss's office asking for what she deserved did I have the guts to ask for my raise...
how insecure is that? Since then, I've learned to believe in my talents and strengths without hesitation.
And incredibly more opportunities have come my way.
There is an opposite situation, when you try too hard.
Maybe you see men at restaurants and, rather than flirting with him with your eyes and body language, you immediately approach him without giving him a chance to register what´s happening.
You take him off guard and he suddenly feels cornered.
Your approach is way too strong.
You need to find the balance between subtlety and taking charge, so that you can learn to land on a man's radar before he has even met you!
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