How to Start Conversation on a First Date - Avoid the Awkward Pause
How to start a conversation is an essential skill.
If you don't feel that you are a very good conversationalist, ask a friend to help you.
Go over some basic conversations together before your date.
This will help you feel more comfortable, because you will be familiar with the topics.
Some good basic conversations are: music, work, origins, hobbies, and favorite movies or television shows.
Remember not to put down any of their favorite things.
Negative comments will make a date go downhill fast.
If you dislike one of their favorite things, keep it to yourself.
You can use this information to later decide if you want a second date or not.
After the basics you can move on to some more fun topics.
Dating should be fun and silly questions like "How would you survive a horror film?" can get you there.
Asking about found childhood memories will let you learn about your date.
Typically during a first date people will go to their happy memories and avoid bad ones.
Your date's fun memories can show you what they have fun doing.
Other open questions could be "what if" questions.
An example would be "What if you could talk with anyone person, living or dead? Who would you pick?" Topics to avoid during a first date are mostly anything too heavy or dark.
Dating is usually something people want to keep light and fun.
Women have a tendency to want to share their emotions.
Ladies, only share the happy ones on the first date.
Men should avoid topics about the body, because they can come across the wrong way and offend your date.
Ex's are a defendant no for first date conversation.
Political topics can be brought up, but don't stay on them long.
If you strongly disagree on something you will both know in a short amount of time.
How will you enjoy your date if you spend the whole time trying to bring the other person to your side? The biggest rule for dating conversation is the 40/60 rule.
Talk 40% of the time and listen to your date for the other 60%.
You already know you, now you need to get to know your date.
When you do speak about yourself, be comfortable with you.
Even if that means that you have to tell yourself how great you are over and over in your head.