Do"s and Don"ts While Trying to Get Your Ex Back
There is a lot of material on the web ready to teach you tips and tricks about luring your ex into your life again.
Many books have been written on the topic and there is also a wide range of opinions available on blogs and forums meant to answer your questions.
However, among a sea of contradicting opinions, you must be very careful to pick what is common sense.
If you really want to heal and regain the one you love, common courtesy is the proper way.
Playing games may sound appealing and there are many men and women who like doing that as it gives them a certain sense of power.
The 'enemy' may thus think you don't care and that will certainly make you feel great.
What if he or she misunderstands the game and takes you as a weak and pitiful person? This will bring about the opposite of what you expect from your ex and ruin all your chances to mean anything to them again.
If you start lying and tricking your ex, you may feel good in the beginning but later on you will surely find it was not a very good idea.
Lies will at some point sully everything nice that may happen to you again.
Starting pretending to be in love with someone else, right after breakup, is another bad idea.
You probably want to see your ex jealous but he or she may only feel angry with you and realize you don't know what love really means.
But, of course, it depends on your ex's character; he or she may as well feel jealous and want you back again.
Another thing that you should never do is start being mean.
Anger will make us act viciously and even violently after we break up.
Better try being understanding and forgive the other for being part of your current situation.
After all it takes two to break up and you must have made mistakes too.
You can start thinking of what exactly went wrong and, if you can't get your ex back you will at least learn a lesson for the future.
Think about how you two have been acting.
Put yourself in your ex's shoes and see if things look the same from the other side.
This will help you understand the other party better.
Whatever you do, be on your best behavior.
You must remind your ex what drew them towards you in the first place, not the things that made them go away.
If they remember what is nice about you, there is a good chance to see them back; if not, at least you will leave nice memories of you.
These are just a couple of ideas about what you can do to get your ex back.
Many books have been written on the topic and there is also a wide range of opinions available on blogs and forums meant to answer your questions.
However, among a sea of contradicting opinions, you must be very careful to pick what is common sense.
If you really want to heal and regain the one you love, common courtesy is the proper way.
Playing games may sound appealing and there are many men and women who like doing that as it gives them a certain sense of power.
The 'enemy' may thus think you don't care and that will certainly make you feel great.
What if he or she misunderstands the game and takes you as a weak and pitiful person? This will bring about the opposite of what you expect from your ex and ruin all your chances to mean anything to them again.
If you start lying and tricking your ex, you may feel good in the beginning but later on you will surely find it was not a very good idea.
Lies will at some point sully everything nice that may happen to you again.
Starting pretending to be in love with someone else, right after breakup, is another bad idea.
You probably want to see your ex jealous but he or she may only feel angry with you and realize you don't know what love really means.
But, of course, it depends on your ex's character; he or she may as well feel jealous and want you back again.
Another thing that you should never do is start being mean.
Anger will make us act viciously and even violently after we break up.
Better try being understanding and forgive the other for being part of your current situation.
After all it takes two to break up and you must have made mistakes too.
You can start thinking of what exactly went wrong and, if you can't get your ex back you will at least learn a lesson for the future.
Think about how you two have been acting.
Put yourself in your ex's shoes and see if things look the same from the other side.
This will help you understand the other party better.
Whatever you do, be on your best behavior.
You must remind your ex what drew them towards you in the first place, not the things that made them go away.
If they remember what is nice about you, there is a good chance to see them back; if not, at least you will leave nice memories of you.
These are just a couple of ideas about what you can do to get your ex back.
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