How to Build a Successful & Meaningful Relationship After the First Date
- 1). Build your friendship, recommends relationship expert and marriage counselor Dr. Phil McGraw. The most successful and enduring relationships are built on solid friendships. Rather than focusing solely on the romantic aspect of your relationship, take the time to build a close friendship. Find activities you both enjoy, and spend plenty of casual time in each other's company.
- 2). Move forward a little bit at a time. You may be hearing wedding bells after that first date, but if you really want a future with this person, you need to keep your expectations in check. Wanting too much too soon can put a lot of pressure on a fledgling relationship. Instead of always focusing on the future, take the time to get to know this person, and work on keeping your relationship grounded in the present moment.
- 3). Speak the truth to your new partner. The only way to build a healthy relationship is by being honest. Lies, even little white lies that seem harmless at the time, may get you through an awkward moment or two early in your relationship, but they are not a good way to build an intimate connection with someone.
- 4). Talk about yourself in moderation. Although you may feel tempted to let it all hang out in the beginning, offering too much intimate information too soon can overwhelm a new relationship. Rather than oversharing, try revealing a little information at a time to keep your potential mate curious and wanting more.
- 5). Commit to that person, says Rabbi Shmuley Boteach on Oprah.com. It is difficult to create a meaningful relationship with someone if you do not commit to her. Committing early in the dating process can make it possible for you to lay the foundation of a true and lasting love.