Breaking Through Approach Anxiety: How To Pick Up Women
Approach anxiety is one of the biggest problems in the pickup artist community, and it affects guys at every level.
Some guys muscle past it and continue learning how to pick up women, but for others it's paralyzing.
I've seen some guys who refuse to get up from the table even when a woman is blatantly checking him out and clearly wants him to come over.
I've seen other guys move in for the cold approach, then peel away and make a bee line for the bathroom right before getting to her.
The cold, hard truth is that you need to move past this.
If you don't, you can not only forget about getting that girl, but also about picking up girls in general.
But I've been in the field for a while and I've seen what works best for most guys.
In this article, I'll show you a few tips that have helped me and thousands of other guys get over their approach anxiety and start approaching women.
Approaching Women Tip 1: Rev up your social engine.
This is an old standard in the PUA community for a reason.
If you're in the social mode, you'll naturally feel like talking to anyone around you.
You'll talk to guys, girls, bartenders, old ladies, loners brooding over their glasses of whiskey, and pretty much anybody else who happens to come close to you.
To get into the social mood, call a few friends before you go out.
Call your mom.
Call your sister.
Just start making conversation with people you're already comfortable with.
When you go out, strike up a conversation with whoever happens to be in the bar stool next to you.
Strike one up with the bartender next.
If a conversation doesn't go smoothly, just smile and walk away to start one with someone else.
Not only will this give you momentum that will help carry you through the approach, but you'll get the social proof that comes when she sees you talking to everyone around you at the bar.
If you look like the center of attention from across the room, you're automatically that much more attractive.
I know one guy who literally walks around the bar and gives a short toast with everybody in the room.
You know what? He goes home with the hottest girl every time.
Approaching Women Tip 2: Give "drive-by" compliments Another great way to get over approach anxiety and start picking up women is to go into the conversation without any intention of getting her phone number.
Just go in with the intention of making her laugh, making her smile, or even just not getting slapped.
Give a short compliment like "I just wanted to let you know that I noticed your dancing and you seem interesting.
" Stick around for a few seconds to gauge her reaction.
After that few seconds is up, smile at her and leave.
That's it.
Not only will you get used to approaching women and realize that they're a lot more receptive to talking to you than you might have thought, but you're likely to get a few women chasing you down to give you their phone numbers.
That's because it's something that most guys would never do-you gave a compliment without hitting on her and expecting to take her home.
Oddly enough, you may very well be the guy who takes her home anyway.
Hopefully these tips get you started approaching women immediately.
If you want to read more, feel free to check out my website.
Just please, for the love of all things holy, start approaching women immediately.
Some guys muscle past it and continue learning how to pick up women, but for others it's paralyzing.
I've seen some guys who refuse to get up from the table even when a woman is blatantly checking him out and clearly wants him to come over.
I've seen other guys move in for the cold approach, then peel away and make a bee line for the bathroom right before getting to her.
The cold, hard truth is that you need to move past this.
If you don't, you can not only forget about getting that girl, but also about picking up girls in general.
But I've been in the field for a while and I've seen what works best for most guys.
In this article, I'll show you a few tips that have helped me and thousands of other guys get over their approach anxiety and start approaching women.
Approaching Women Tip 1: Rev up your social engine.
This is an old standard in the PUA community for a reason.
If you're in the social mode, you'll naturally feel like talking to anyone around you.
You'll talk to guys, girls, bartenders, old ladies, loners brooding over their glasses of whiskey, and pretty much anybody else who happens to come close to you.
To get into the social mood, call a few friends before you go out.
Call your mom.
Call your sister.
Just start making conversation with people you're already comfortable with.
When you go out, strike up a conversation with whoever happens to be in the bar stool next to you.
Strike one up with the bartender next.
If a conversation doesn't go smoothly, just smile and walk away to start one with someone else.
Not only will this give you momentum that will help carry you through the approach, but you'll get the social proof that comes when she sees you talking to everyone around you at the bar.
If you look like the center of attention from across the room, you're automatically that much more attractive.
I know one guy who literally walks around the bar and gives a short toast with everybody in the room.
You know what? He goes home with the hottest girl every time.
Approaching Women Tip 2: Give "drive-by" compliments Another great way to get over approach anxiety and start picking up women is to go into the conversation without any intention of getting her phone number.
Just go in with the intention of making her laugh, making her smile, or even just not getting slapped.
Give a short compliment like "I just wanted to let you know that I noticed your dancing and you seem interesting.
" Stick around for a few seconds to gauge her reaction.
After that few seconds is up, smile at her and leave.
That's it.
Not only will you get used to approaching women and realize that they're a lot more receptive to talking to you than you might have thought, but you're likely to get a few women chasing you down to give you their phone numbers.
That's because it's something that most guys would never do-you gave a compliment without hitting on her and expecting to take her home.
Oddly enough, you may very well be the guy who takes her home anyway.
Hopefully these tips get you started approaching women immediately.
If you want to read more, feel free to check out my website.
Just please, for the love of all things holy, start approaching women immediately.
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