Whenever a female learns that: "My boyfriend wants a break" Her first instinct is to automatically assume that she has displeased him, failed to satisfy his needs in some way or that he no longer finds her physically or sexually attractive.
Although there can be no denying the fact that these are some of the reasons as to why a girls boyfriend says that he wants a break, it is by no means automatically the case.
One of the great truths about life is that people are dynamic entities and as such, they will forever undergo a process of growth, development and change.
As such, their tastes, penchants and interests will differ and evolve with the passage of time and so they may out grow one another and drift away.
This is not a reflection of inferiority or failure on the part of the couple, but rather, simply a fact of life.
It is worth noting that a "break" and a "breakup" in the context of a relationship are two seemingly similar terms, which have rather different effects and consequences.
This is not intended merely as a rather pedantic discourse on semantic nuances, but rather, providing the correct definition for the proper terms.
A break can be defined as a sort of timeout in a relationship, providing the couple an opportunity to spend some time apart from one another with a view of trying to look on their relationship with objectivity and emotional neutrality.
In doing so, free from the distractions and constraints that being together undoubtedly imposes on them, this can provide the couple with some glimmer of hope of fixing and remedying the damage to the relationship.
My boyfriend wants a break is often cited as a reason for estrangement in a relationship after one or even both of the partners to the relationship have been unfaithful to the other, and so have indulged in an affair.
In this case, a break can help the couple to overcome their pain, guilt and resentment of one another and from there, seek to then work in harmony.
Let us consider an analogy.
A person who has broken their leg will need to wait until the bones have healed and repaired themselves before they put any weight through the limb, otherwise they will run the very real risk of damaging the limb further and possibly, more severely than the original injury.
In the same way, a break between a couple can provide them with a chance to grow and determine whether they can work together as a couple to forgive one another for their indiscretions and bad decisions.
Whether or not your boyfriend reveals that he wishes for a break from the relationship means that the relationship is therefore doomed to die on its feet cannot be answered definitively.
Rather, this is ultimately a question and a topic that will be determined by the couple themselves and how willing they are to remedy the breach and overcome fault.