Should you delay having sex with the guy that you have started seeing? Will it hurt his feelings if you tell him no? How long is long enough to keep him waiting? The last thing that you want to do is lose him now, but you don't want to ruin the relationship by having sex too soon either.
There are many consequences to sleeping with a man that you have only recently begun to date.
If you really want to be with him long term, you need to consider a few things before you decide whether or not to delay having sex with him.
Casual sex is much more common nowadays than it was in the past.
In the past having sex out of marriage was considered to be morally wrong, but these days as long as two people are unattached, they are free to make the decision to have sex without being seen as evil.
In many ways, this is a great thing for the modern woman.
For the first time in history, women can engage in the same sort of sexual freedom that has been available to men for a long time.
The downside to the sexual revolution is that when a woman is really interested in a man for more than a causal fling, things can get confusing.
Men and women tend to view sex quite differently.
While men can have causal flings with women without attaching any kind of emotional significance to the act, women are more likely to feel that sex will lead to romance.
If you are really interested in being with a guy long-term, don't make the mistake of letting him use you as a casual fling.
You may be afraid that if you delay having sex with him, he will just lost interest and withdraw.
If he does, you can bet that he wasn't actually interested in you romantically anyway.
Some guys will just be out for sex and nothing else.
If he sees you as someone that he might like to have a relationship with, he will stick around to find out more about you.
Because you waited, you will be able to build the strong emotional bond that you need in order to have a healthy, happy, relationship.
Couples who rush into having sex with each other early on are less likely to last.
Think about it, if you are serious enough about him, then you may be looking at years together ahead of you.
So why rush into the sexual encounter when you have plenty of time? The slower you take it the more the anticipation will build and the better it will be when you do give in.
So now you see that by delaying having sex with him, you can actually strengthen your relationship.
If he doesn't want to wait, then maybe he isn't the right guy for you.