If you are seeking relationship problem advice, I would like you to answer one question..
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are you giving your mate the very best of you? I find it absurd that most people are actually nicer to friends, acquaintances and even strangers than they are to their very own spouse or partner.
I would like you to think about how much time you spend practicing patience and tolerance for people whom you do not even know...
do you expend the same amount of easiness with the person whom you love most in the whole wide world? My guess is probably not.
Most people have a certain leniency with ordinary people yet completely jump down the throats of partners and spouses for the simplest occurrences.
I honestly know people who are nicer to their pets than they are their mates.
My relationship problem advice for you today is: be kind to the one you love.
I had a friend who despised the fact that her husband would leave a gum wrapper or two on the kitchen counter.
Every single time that I went to her house she would almost explode if she walked into the kitchen to find even one wrapper.
She would get so angry and so frustrated that I thought steam would literally pop out of her ears.
She would complain and grumble and leave that wrapper sitting in its exact spot so that she that she could chastise her husband for his litter the minute that he got home.
Just for fun one day I opened a few pieces of gum and left the wrappers on the kitchen table.
Guess what she did? She collected them while throwing out other trash and threw them in the garbage can without even thinking about it.
Why could she be so sweet and considerate with me...
yet get so angry and outraged with her husband for the very same thing? She could have saved so many arguments by simply throwing the wrappers away.
Her husband was not trying to make her angry.
He was not being disrespectful...
he simply forgot to throw out a gum wrapper.
That same friend came to me and asked me for relationship problem advice.
I told her to simply be a bit nicer to her spouse.
Smile more often.
Respond to his questions in a calmer voice.
Throw out his gum wrappers without even acknowledging them.
Welcome him home after work.
Speak to him with just a smidgen more respect.
Do something sweet for him.
The results were astounding! They currently have an amazing relationship.
I encourage you to do the same thing.
It does not matter if you are a man or woman...
we can all be more polite and pleasant to our mates.
Be the best you that you can be.
When you give love and respect you get love and respect in return.