Have you ever noticed how people treat you when you're in a good mood versus how they treat you when you're in a crappy mood? Have you ever really taking the time to figure out why that is? Just curious.
Because if you had then you'd be able to spot a pattern here.
The pattern is - people treat you exactly the way you treat yourself.
Sound to simple to be true? It is true.
If you always took the time to nurture and care for yourself then everyone else would too.
It's called self-love and it's vital to your happiness.
You might think that the outside world has to change for you to be happy but the truth of the matter is is that you are the only person who can make you happy indefinitely.
Now that we have that settled let's take a look at some ways to increase that loving relationship you have with yourself.
Here are four ways to guarantee that you are treating yourself with love, kindness, respect and acceptance that way you can give it to others and you can receive it from others as well.
1.
Talk to yourself with love and respect.
Don't put yourself down by saying the worst things possible to yourself even if you do screw up big time.
Life is about learning lessons and some of those lessons are painful but in the whole scheme of things they're necessary.
Don't lash out at yourself internally by calling yourself names of reminding yourself of how incompetent you are.
This will not help you feel good about yourself and surely it won't help you build that deep love for yourself.
2.
Take inventory of everything you have to be grateful for.
List everything from every organ in your body to every material object you have in your life that you really like.
Then look at the list whenever you're feeling blue or depressed.
It should help to brighten your day to know that you still have all these things to be grateful for.
Now thatyou have a master list to keep handy for down times, I want you to write down at least 4 things your grateful for everyday.
Yes, everyday.
It will take about a minute and ahalf.
I'm sure you can find the time somewhere, right? 3.
Walk around with a smile on your face at all times.
This will keep you from going into that dark place inside of you that keeps you angry and not feeling good enough.
Sure you can go there if you want to but you'll find it's much nicer in a light happy place.
Smiling is one of the easiest ways to feel good about yourself.
Try it.
It's extremely difficult to think negative thoughts or to lash out in anger when you have a smile on your face.
4.
Do something encouraging for yourself every day.
It could be listening to music you enjoy, or playing a sport or game that makes you happy.
Or maybe you like to spend time looking at old photos or reading romance novels.
Or for you men maybe you like to look at old cars or work on them.
It doesn't matter what it is as long as you give yourself enough love to allow yourself the freedom to do something you enjoy every day.
Life really is meant to be enjoyable and fun.
But we sometimes get all caught up in the got to do, got to do, got to do mode that we forget to care for ourselves.
Caring for yourself is one way to change all the negatives in your life.
Once you take the time to figure out what makes you happy you'll be able to love yourself deeply and everyone else aroundyou more as well.
Building a deep relationship with yourself should be a high priority in your life.
You'll be rewarded generously for it for years to come.