If love was always the way it is portrayed in the movies everyone would fall in love and live happily ever after.
Unfortunately real life isn't like that.
Don't get me wrong, love is a wonderful thing but when you start living together the romance quickly runs down once the honeymoon period is over.
Before too long you may start wondering what you were thinking of when you decided to get married.
At that stage it can all go horribly wrong and your beautiful relationship turns hateful.
That's because few people really understand what it takes to live side by side with another person.
It's not all kisses and cuddles, you have to learn how to accommodate another person's lifestyle.
A happy relationship doesn't come about automatically, you have to both work at it.
You can start by deciding who takes what role in your day to day lives.
If you haven't done this before then it is a good idea to both sit down and write a list of what you expect your partner to do in the relationship.
This could be as simple as who takes the garbage out, who's responsible for paying bills and so on.
Once you've worked that out then you'll find there are many things you can share.
For example you may both like cooking, in which case you can either take turns meal after meal, day after day, or both go shopping for ingredients together and one prepares the vegetables while the other handles the meat.

In my case I and my partner decided that whoever cooked wouldn't have to clean up afterwards, that would be the other one's job.
Now that, in itself, can lead to conflict.
My partner told me I was too messy and used too many pans when cooking.
So I made a pact that I would clear up the worst of the mess and the excess pans while I cooked, leaving him to do the normal cleaning of the dishes and stuff.

You see, if you talk about these things you can agree on how to handle them.
They may seem trivial at the time but by sharing day to day chores and the ins and outs of daily life you will become closer as a couple.
People are not born knowing how to live together and we are not taught this at school either, more's the pity! Couples who have learnt how to live comfortably with each other quickly become familiar with having the other person share their lives.
This develops the relationship and makes it stronger.
And a strong relationship can make you more confident and feel on top of the world.
Having a strong relationship should be the best thing that ever happened to you.
Enduring a painful relationship seems like the worst mistake that you could have ever made.
It's up to you both how you handle your relationship; don't expect there to be automatic compatibility just because you love each other.
Feeling comfortable with each other comes about because you know you can tell each other your real feelings.
That's something that will only develop with getting to know each other for who you really are.