Rebuilding the honesty is not easy.
However, it is also not impossible.
There are many couples having problems with their marriage.
An affair could happen because you don't put any fence surrounding your marriage.
Ironically, many people don't want to realize that they are lying with their partner.
Just because you are not technically saying a lie, it doesn't mean that you are being honest.
And if you are serious in saving your marriage from a lie, note that all the things begin with your self.
1.
Admit consciously that you are not honest.
It is the most important basic step you can take.
If you are not able to be honest with yourself, how can you wish to be honest with your partner? Note in your mind that admitting your lie to your self means that you are ready to begin the new start.
Being dishonest doesn't always mean that you should "say" the lie.
Hiding your certain action from your partner and act just like nothing has happened is also called dishonest.
For example you have a dinner with a friend.
You feel comfort with her and don't tell anything to your wife.
2.
Make a commitment to be honest with your partner.
Making commitment should be followed with real action.
If you have serious commitment in saving your marriage by building the honesty, it has been enough to be the basic.
The serious desire will make you try even the hardest way to rebuild the honesty.
3.
Share about your life to partner.
One of the most important steps in being honest with your partner is by sharing your life.
Make your partner really be part of your life.
Being transparent in life will make your relationship become more pleasing and easier.
Therefore you can understand each others' life and will be able to open your mind.
4.
Express your feeling honestly.
Sharing your life is not enough.
You should also be transparent with your feeling.
This will avoid the curiosity between you and your partner and even makes your relationship be more intimate.
5.
Reveal all the things you have lied on the table.
Beginning the new start is not easy.
Revealing all your lies is also not an overnight work.
But this is important step to begin life with the new page without any lies left behind.
This stage will takes longer time and need more patience.
Your partner may be hurt but ensure her that you will change everything.
6.
Ask forgiveness to your partner and insist her to give you a chance.
Make your partner believe that you will never repeat the same mistake and will be honest with her in the future.
Involve your partner in your changing.
It will make your partner feel important.
There is no mean that a marriage without honesty can survive.
Therefore, the honesty should be built by both you and your partner.
As long as both of you make strong commitment, it will works.