How to Understand Women and Make Them Want You
Consider this familiar story...
Boy meets girl...
Boy gets girl's phone number...
Boy calls girl up and asks for a date...
Boy arrives on girl's doorstep with flowers (or a gift of some kind)...
Boy takes girl to a pricey restaurant and flatters her by telling her how much he REALLY likes her...
Girl abruptly ends the date...
Girl doesn't answer his phone calls or text messages.
Sound familiar? It should.
Just about every guy has done that.
Frankly, it's not your fault.
We are ALL still learning how to understand women.
Men are programmed for that kind of behavior.
How many movies have you seen where the romantic lead wins the girl by professing his undying love? Probably a few.
And if you've watched those kinds of flicks with a woman, you've surely noticed how emotional she gets.
So it's only natural and logical to get the WRONG idea about the best way to attract a woman's interest.
Now, this brings us to a question: Should you be romantic on your first date? The answer is...
NO! Surprised? Here's why...
Men and women are completely different in the way they perceive and approach dating.
Most guys already know that they like the girl before the date even begins.
You would not have asked her out otherwise, would you? So the first date or two becomes all about trying to impress the girl by proving yourself.
Without thinking you regress and go with what you perceive to be the correct way to win the girl's heart.
After all, it worked in those movies.
Suddenly you find yourself at the point of no return and you have to stand helplessly by and watch her walk out of your life.
Women, on the other hand, see dating as a game - a way to "qualify" a guy.
She may be all smiles on the outside but on the inside she's "sizing you up!" This is why coming on too strong with flagrant romantic gestures does more harm than good.
What you are doing is letting the girl know that you are into her before SHE has proven herself to you! She is looking for reasons to ELIMINATE you! Don't give her one! Confused? It's like this...
Women want to EARN a man's interest! Coming on too soon and too strong is letting her know that you don't care about her as a person.
There is a hidden power struggle going on and YOU are giving yours away.
Remember - SHE is still trying to figure YOU out.
And UNTIL she has made her decision as to what kind of guy you are, dispense with ALL the romantic overtures.
It shouldn't take more than two dates for her to "figure you out.
" When she does you will know.
Get this wrong and you may be looking at the "Let's Just Be Friends" speech.
Get it right and you'll be spending lots of quality time with your cute new girlfriend.
Boy meets girl...
Boy gets girl's phone number...
Boy calls girl up and asks for a date...
Boy arrives on girl's doorstep with flowers (or a gift of some kind)...
Boy takes girl to a pricey restaurant and flatters her by telling her how much he REALLY likes her...
Girl abruptly ends the date...
Girl doesn't answer his phone calls or text messages.
Sound familiar? It should.
Just about every guy has done that.
Frankly, it's not your fault.
We are ALL still learning how to understand women.
Men are programmed for that kind of behavior.
How many movies have you seen where the romantic lead wins the girl by professing his undying love? Probably a few.
And if you've watched those kinds of flicks with a woman, you've surely noticed how emotional she gets.
So it's only natural and logical to get the WRONG idea about the best way to attract a woman's interest.
Now, this brings us to a question: Should you be romantic on your first date? The answer is...
NO! Surprised? Here's why...
Men and women are completely different in the way they perceive and approach dating.
Most guys already know that they like the girl before the date even begins.
You would not have asked her out otherwise, would you? So the first date or two becomes all about trying to impress the girl by proving yourself.
Without thinking you regress and go with what you perceive to be the correct way to win the girl's heart.
After all, it worked in those movies.
Suddenly you find yourself at the point of no return and you have to stand helplessly by and watch her walk out of your life.
Women, on the other hand, see dating as a game - a way to "qualify" a guy.
She may be all smiles on the outside but on the inside she's "sizing you up!" This is why coming on too strong with flagrant romantic gestures does more harm than good.
What you are doing is letting the girl know that you are into her before SHE has proven herself to you! She is looking for reasons to ELIMINATE you! Don't give her one! Confused? It's like this...
Women want to EARN a man's interest! Coming on too soon and too strong is letting her know that you don't care about her as a person.
There is a hidden power struggle going on and YOU are giving yours away.
Remember - SHE is still trying to figure YOU out.
And UNTIL she has made her decision as to what kind of guy you are, dispense with ALL the romantic overtures.
It shouldn't take more than two dates for her to "figure you out.
" When she does you will know.
Get this wrong and you may be looking at the "Let's Just Be Friends" speech.
Get it right and you'll be spending lots of quality time with your cute new girlfriend.
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