Online  dating sites are definitely the place to go if you want to find yourself a safe environment that is not only fun but a cheap way to find a date. For men it has never been easier, as now they don't have to go through the mental trauma of physically starting a "chat-up" line or asking someone they know if they want to go out on a date. So how come so many men are not very successful at finding a date online? Well, the reason is very simple really; they don't have any technique to speak of and they think that by improvising and being themselves, they can get by. Wrong guys! Just like some people are better at the chat -up line, it comes down to how you go about it.
The good thing is, that statistically women are not so impressed with good looks and fabulous body, but over 60% of women when asked what they look for in a potential date, stated emotional stability, intelligence and faithfulness as their top priorities. Surprisingly also is the fact that a lot of women are looking for a potential father for their children when they check out a male, which proves what we have known all along, that females are the more developed mentally of the two sexes.

If you have been following parts 1-3 of this series of articles, you will already have a killer profile and have sent out some great Emails and are now struggling to reply to them in a manner that will make you maintain your attractiveness. From now on it get more tricky, but there is thankfully still a formula.

So you have received an EMail from shall we say Sue, who seems like a great girl, and you really don't want to mess-up your reply. The first rule is don't "gush" and do the equivalent in writing what you would do when physically standing in front of a really hot girl. The name of the game from now on, is to take it slowly. Here are some pointers.

1 You really don't want to reveal very much about yourself by stating it on paper. Things like "I am a very sensitive person," or " my friends think I am a gentleman," don't wash online as its just Blah! You want to reveal you nature in a subtle way by what you are writing rather than describing what you are. Here is an example.

Most people I know consider me very caring. Well you would say that wouldn't you.

It's really great to hear from you, I am so sorry to hear that you have recently broken-up with your boyfriend; I know how down you must be felling, and I hope I can cheer you up.

See the difference? The second sentence actually comes across as written by a very caring person, so you don't need to state it.

2 Try not to reveal too much about yourself, as you want to maintain her interest. If asked a direct question, don't ignore it but try to reverse it. Here is an example.

So what type of things are you looking for in a woman?

I am very open when it comes to what I look for in life generaly, what about you? What are you looking for in a man.

By asking a question you show you are more interested in her that talking about yourself, and she will usually enjoy talking about herself, so will write back.

3 Ask at least five questions in your reply, as this is opening the door for her to get back to you.

4 when you finish your Email, say something like. Sue, I was great to hear from you, and I am really looking forward to your next Email. Write to me very soon. Lots of love............

If you go about writing reply Emails in this way, you will maintain interest and get to know all about the other person without revealing too much about yourself. Do this and you are heading towards you first physical meeting; which you can find out how to go about in the next part of the series.