Winning your Boyfriend Back - 5 Simple Tips
There's no magic bullet which is going to solve your heartache. Breaking up, as the song says, is hard to do - and winning your boyfriend back is no picnic either. Maybe the relationship you had really is over and it's time to move on. But maybe he is the One and you WERE good together, so it's worth trying. Here are five tips that might help.
- Tip 1: The first thing you must do is stop feeling sorry for yourself. It's nice to wallow in self-pity, to think you must be worthless because he doesn't love you any more, but you have to be stronger than that if you want hin back. So hard though it is get rid of those negative thoughts, and keep your emotions in check.
- Tip 2: Your relationship as it was is now over. Accept that. Whatever happens now you and your (now ex-) boyfriend will relate to each other in a different way. You may get back together - but it won't be like it was. This could be a very good thing, because if you do get back with him you could both find your relationship stronger because you know how bad things can be apart. There are probably a number of reasons you split up, and they developed over time. Likewise, it's going to take time to heal the hurt caused by the split, so don't rush things.
- Tip 3: One thing that really bugs boys is when an ex keeps pestering him. You gotta leave a guy his space, however much you long to hear his voice or have him notice you in some way. Don't hang out where you're pretty sure he'll be, unless you'd do that anyway - and if you are somewhere that you're likely to run into each other, act naturally. Say hi rather than just ignore him. In fact, this could tie in really well with Tip 4, because the person you want him to see is the girl he fell for before. So don't fall over him but be cool and a little bit flirty.
- Tip 4: This also relates to Tip 1. Make sure you look your best. By looking your best you'll already be putting over a positive vibe. And it will help you feel better inside. Think about the way he liked you to look, and if you think maybe he had a point, try it. For instance, a lot of girls think they need to wear a lot of make-up. But actually guys don't like make-up - a little goes a long way. The more confident you feel about the way you look, the more attractive you're going to appear to everyone else. And what does everyone like? An attractive, fun person who it's great to be with.
- Tip 5: Having completed the first four steps your mindset may well be different. It doesn't mean you no longer want to get back with your ex, or that you don't miss him terribly: it means that you will have taken charge of your life again - and you're more or less back to the person he fell for before. Now give it time, take things slowly. Because you're showing this confident, attractive exterior everyone's taking notice of you again, you're a person they like to be around. When your ex sees this he's quite likely to respond the way he did before - by trying to get to know you. Which is just what you want! But be cool - if you get back with him make sure he's aware it's on YOUR terms. So be in no rush. Limit the physical, it'll only make him want you more.
Difficult though it may seem these five tips are a good beginning if you want to get your boyfriend back. But they are only a start. There's much more to it than that, and you'll find more here which could maybe help you, too!
- Tip 1: The first thing you must do is stop feeling sorry for yourself. It's nice to wallow in self-pity, to think you must be worthless because he doesn't love you any more, but you have to be stronger than that if you want hin back. So hard though it is get rid of those negative thoughts, and keep your emotions in check.
- Tip 2: Your relationship as it was is now over. Accept that. Whatever happens now you and your (now ex-) boyfriend will relate to each other in a different way. You may get back together - but it won't be like it was. This could be a very good thing, because if you do get back with him you could both find your relationship stronger because you know how bad things can be apart. There are probably a number of reasons you split up, and they developed over time. Likewise, it's going to take time to heal the hurt caused by the split, so don't rush things.
- Tip 3: One thing that really bugs boys is when an ex keeps pestering him. You gotta leave a guy his space, however much you long to hear his voice or have him notice you in some way. Don't hang out where you're pretty sure he'll be, unless you'd do that anyway - and if you are somewhere that you're likely to run into each other, act naturally. Say hi rather than just ignore him. In fact, this could tie in really well with Tip 4, because the person you want him to see is the girl he fell for before. So don't fall over him but be cool and a little bit flirty.
- Tip 4: This also relates to Tip 1. Make sure you look your best. By looking your best you'll already be putting over a positive vibe. And it will help you feel better inside. Think about the way he liked you to look, and if you think maybe he had a point, try it. For instance, a lot of girls think they need to wear a lot of make-up. But actually guys don't like make-up - a little goes a long way. The more confident you feel about the way you look, the more attractive you're going to appear to everyone else. And what does everyone like? An attractive, fun person who it's great to be with.
- Tip 5: Having completed the first four steps your mindset may well be different. It doesn't mean you no longer want to get back with your ex, or that you don't miss him terribly: it means that you will have taken charge of your life again - and you're more or less back to the person he fell for before. Now give it time, take things slowly. Because you're showing this confident, attractive exterior everyone's taking notice of you again, you're a person they like to be around. When your ex sees this he's quite likely to respond the way he did before - by trying to get to know you. Which is just what you want! But be cool - if you get back with him make sure he's aware it's on YOUR terms. So be in no rush. Limit the physical, it'll only make him want you more.
Difficult though it may seem these five tips are a good beginning if you want to get your boyfriend back. But they are only a start. There's much more to it than that, and you'll find more here which could maybe help you, too!
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