Every day, millions of couples call it quits.
This can be for any number reasons ranging from abuse, to loss of love to infidelity.
Regardless of the reason, a breakup can be quite an ordeal especially when there was a great deal of emotional investment.
In the case of a marriage, a breakup can affect the children and cause them to develop a warped view of marriage.
They even struggle with low self-esteem much later in their lives.
If you are in this situation, and you are still in love with your ex, you no doubt want to get back with your ex.
You may have heard of reports which state that most relationships that break do not recover.
But this is a misconception.
It is definitely possible to win back your ex with the strategies we will highlight below.
No contact After a breakup, one goes through a fallout.
You definitely go through a period where you miss your ex.
This period, which may last 3-5 months, can be excruciating.
There is the constant temptation to call, text message or email your text.
This gets even worse during times like their birthday and special holidays like Thanksgiving and Christmas.
During these times there is the overwhelming urge to send a gift.
Do not do it.
You must absolutely stay away from your ex during this period.
Staying away has its advantages.
While you may ache inside and long for your ex, being constantly in their life only causes you more grief.
This is because your ex cannot miss you as long as your are in their face.
No contact ensures that your ex has time to reflect on the circumstances that surrounded your breakup.
They can also review their life with you and see whether it is worth salvaging the relationship.
Again this cannot happen as long as you are there.
Be friendly In many breakups, there is bottled up anger.
This is because each party blames the other for the relationship breakup.
If abuse was involved, you can imagine that the abused party has a lot of bottled up emotions.
If there was infidelity, this can even be worse.
If you are angry at your ex, you must take control of these emotions and act as friendly as possible when you are with your ex.
Anger causes negative words to be exchanged and you might say something that might permanently damn the relationship.
Avoid blame Sometimes when you talk to your ex, there is the tendency to blame them for what happened.
This can trigger a similar response and an exchange can take place which may lead to permanent damage.
How communicate with your ex during the first few months of the breakup can determine whether a comeback is a viable option.
It is understandable that your ex may have caused you pain by the things they said and did.
But in order to effect a comeback and win your ex back, you must absolutely agree with them and avoid blaming them.