How To Set Great Goals
Copyright (c) 2011 Willie Horton
For all that has been written and said about goal setting, I have met very few people who are sure of what their goals are. And, with the proliferation of self improvement books and personal development websites, you could be forgiven for thinking that, with so many people wanting to change their lives, all these people are sure of where they want to go. Not so because, in all my years working with people, it strikes me that people are more focused on running away from their current troubles - or perceived troubles - than running towards a goal that they really want. Little wonder that most people still haven't found what they're looking for! Nor will they until they set their minds and hearts on something that excites them enough to grab their attention and focus their mind.
Do you know your goals? I bet you that you've a good idea what you'd like to change in your life but that's not the same thing as having big and exciting goals. We all know that things that we want to get rid of in our lives - health worries, financial worries, all the worries that you can think of! We want to get rid of stress and all its associated physical and psychological problems. Maybe we want to get over some personal problem that we think we have - like shyness, lack of self confidence or low self esteem. In other words, we're all experts at knowing all the problems that we want to be rid of. But do we know what we do want? Then again, we often think that we're sure of our goals, but, ask yourself, how often do those goals actually change? From what I've seen, it appears to me that the normal persons' goals are as variable as the Irish weather - one day it's a new car, next day it's a new job, the following day it's a different car because the neighbours have just got one, the day after that, it might be a holiday or a holiday home. The point is, even if you're into setting your mind to different goals, it's damn difficult to hit a moving target.
So, here are a couple of suggested questions that might fix your mind on the kind of life and lifestyle that you really want. First of all, consider this. If you discovered today that you've only got three months to life, how would you spend those three months? Now, I'm not suggesting that you answer that you'll feel sorry for yourself for the next three months! I believe that this kind of self-questioning gives your mind the kind of focus that it needs. And, of course, you must realize that you only have a finite amount of time available to you anyway - maybe you should be thinking this way all of the time.
Secondly, who and what are the people and things that are most important to you in your life? Do you devote your time and attention to these priorites or those people as things stand - and how might your life be different if you spent more time focused on these things and people than the way in which you waste your time and energy at present? How important are you to you? How much time and energy do you devote to yourself? This is not a question of selfishness - it's a question of getting your priorities right because, until you're at peace with yourself, you'll be at war with everything else in the world, often including the people who are most important to you.
How would you describe your ideal life? What would it have in it - not what would it not have in it! If you could pick a moment when all is right with the world and your place in it, what would that feel like? Who would be with you, what kind of place would you be. In order to focus your mind, you've got to grab it's attention. And the best way to do that is to paint it a big, colourful exciting picture. Your mind experiences and views the world through the only interface you have with external reality - your five senses. So, in setting your goals, there's no point in saying things like 'I want to have this' or 'I'd like to have that' - you have to describe your objective to your subconscious mind in language that it understands - the language of the five senses.
So, having answered the above questions, what would your ideal moment look like, feel like, sound like, smell like and taste like? Forget about how you might have arrived at this point. Simply ignore how your current life appears to be vastly different from your ideal outcome. Don't bother worrying about how you might get there, don't think about when it might happen - what you need to do is be sure and certain how it feels to have arrived. Your subconscious mind dictates your reactions, your behaviour and, therefore, your life based on psychological 'snapshots'. You need to captivate your subconscious mind with a new and exciting snapshot. You can only do this using your five senses. More than that, you will directly impress your subconscious mind by handwriting all the details - what you see, feel, hear, smell and tatse - as if you're already experiencing them.
There's an old saying that nothing concentrates the mind like hanging! You need your mind to be concentrated and focused - because if you don't achieve this first vital objective, all your other objectives will be unachievable. Oh - don't forget, you need to take great care in deciding what you want...
For all that has been written and said about goal setting, I have met very few people who are sure of what their goals are. And, with the proliferation of self improvement books and personal development websites, you could be forgiven for thinking that, with so many people wanting to change their lives, all these people are sure of where they want to go. Not so because, in all my years working with people, it strikes me that people are more focused on running away from their current troubles - or perceived troubles - than running towards a goal that they really want. Little wonder that most people still haven't found what they're looking for! Nor will they until they set their minds and hearts on something that excites them enough to grab their attention and focus their mind.
Do you know your goals? I bet you that you've a good idea what you'd like to change in your life but that's not the same thing as having big and exciting goals. We all know that things that we want to get rid of in our lives - health worries, financial worries, all the worries that you can think of! We want to get rid of stress and all its associated physical and psychological problems. Maybe we want to get over some personal problem that we think we have - like shyness, lack of self confidence or low self esteem. In other words, we're all experts at knowing all the problems that we want to be rid of. But do we know what we do want? Then again, we often think that we're sure of our goals, but, ask yourself, how often do those goals actually change? From what I've seen, it appears to me that the normal persons' goals are as variable as the Irish weather - one day it's a new car, next day it's a new job, the following day it's a different car because the neighbours have just got one, the day after that, it might be a holiday or a holiday home. The point is, even if you're into setting your mind to different goals, it's damn difficult to hit a moving target.
So, here are a couple of suggested questions that might fix your mind on the kind of life and lifestyle that you really want. First of all, consider this. If you discovered today that you've only got three months to life, how would you spend those three months? Now, I'm not suggesting that you answer that you'll feel sorry for yourself for the next three months! I believe that this kind of self-questioning gives your mind the kind of focus that it needs. And, of course, you must realize that you only have a finite amount of time available to you anyway - maybe you should be thinking this way all of the time.
Secondly, who and what are the people and things that are most important to you in your life? Do you devote your time and attention to these priorites or those people as things stand - and how might your life be different if you spent more time focused on these things and people than the way in which you waste your time and energy at present? How important are you to you? How much time and energy do you devote to yourself? This is not a question of selfishness - it's a question of getting your priorities right because, until you're at peace with yourself, you'll be at war with everything else in the world, often including the people who are most important to you.
How would you describe your ideal life? What would it have in it - not what would it not have in it! If you could pick a moment when all is right with the world and your place in it, what would that feel like? Who would be with you, what kind of place would you be. In order to focus your mind, you've got to grab it's attention. And the best way to do that is to paint it a big, colourful exciting picture. Your mind experiences and views the world through the only interface you have with external reality - your five senses. So, in setting your goals, there's no point in saying things like 'I want to have this' or 'I'd like to have that' - you have to describe your objective to your subconscious mind in language that it understands - the language of the five senses.
So, having answered the above questions, what would your ideal moment look like, feel like, sound like, smell like and taste like? Forget about how you might have arrived at this point. Simply ignore how your current life appears to be vastly different from your ideal outcome. Don't bother worrying about how you might get there, don't think about when it might happen - what you need to do is be sure and certain how it feels to have arrived. Your subconscious mind dictates your reactions, your behaviour and, therefore, your life based on psychological 'snapshots'. You need to captivate your subconscious mind with a new and exciting snapshot. You can only do this using your five senses. More than that, you will directly impress your subconscious mind by handwriting all the details - what you see, feel, hear, smell and tatse - as if you're already experiencing them.
There's an old saying that nothing concentrates the mind like hanging! You need your mind to be concentrated and focused - because if you don't achieve this first vital objective, all your other objectives will be unachievable. Oh - don't forget, you need to take great care in deciding what you want...
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