There is what you might call a disconnect, because the question that you are actually asking is "How to get a boyfriend that's right for me?"Indeed, a lot of women want the attention that other women have, but don't get it.
Other women do get plenty of attention but not from the type of man they really want.
It certainly doesn't help to say, "Go out and find one!" because it's never that easy.
However it might be time to change your date process.
To some extent, patience is a virtue, and confidence is always a help, as many women hold back finding a new opportunity because of shyness or insecurity.
Still, to say it's all a matter of confidence would be misleading.
There is something wrong with the screening process if you have had a history of bad relationships.
One important point to remember is that there is clearly a difference between how to get a boyfriend and how to get a man.
A man is responsible, and is usually more interested in commitment than a boyfriend, who still loves the "hook up.
" Looking for Mr.
Right Let's say that a quick hook up not is what you want.
You do want something serious but it hasn't happened for you yet-and you've tried looking.
We're always told that there are plenty of fish in the sea, but what people forget to warn you about is that there are the occasional (or more than occasion) octopus, scallops, sharks and barracuda!What we essentially learn thus far is that there are obviously going to be men who are not going to be boyfriend material.
What we have here, in this big sea of bachelors, is a numbers game.
The more men you meet, the more likely the odds are that you will find somebody.
If it's not a numbers game for you, and you are starting to doubt the quality of men you meet, then self assessment and planning may be the next step.
Online dating sites are what you might call a progressive step.
While you might find the same low quality of men at the bar, club or usual sporting events, changing the venue might help you discover more potential mates that are pleasantly different than your norm.
Do you really know what you want in a man? Part of the process is in eliminating Mr.
Wrong, discovering-not only the undesirable man-but the qualities that make him undesirable.
That's the irony of the process we have, you have to meet Mr.
Wrong to know what Mr.
Right looks like.
Another crucial factor: are you close friends with any of your potential suitors? It is always best to make friends first.
Friends are more interested in your compatibility, long-term partner potential, and will likely not risk everything you have for a meaningless fling.
Then again, making a boyfriend out of a "friend" can be tricky business.
One detour you ought to avoid is the "friends with benefits" situation.
Once you cross that bridge and determine you're just friends, and have intimate privileges, it's going to be hard for him to consider you serious mate potential.
Sex does tend to ruin friendship, which is why most women avoid having sex until there is some form of emotional attachment.
How to Get a Boyfriend - Tips That Work

• If you choose to delaying sex, spend some time getting to know your suitor instead.
  Invite him in but share something deeper than sexuality.
  Always be yourself; you do not want him falling for a façade instead of the real you, because fake relationships quickly crumble.
  
• Ask him about his dreams, passions, hobbies, and job.
  See what inspires him in life.
  
• Ask him open-ended questions that get him thinking and talking.
  He will listen to you as much as you want, but that teaches you nothing about him.
  Conversation should be an interactive process.
  
• One little trick is to observe him as he talks to his friends or family members.
  Not all men are kind to their own families or friends, believe it or not, and this could be insight into how he will treat you later on.
  Anything you see now is a great indication.
  Simple observations can give you a lot of information about what's on his mind.
  
• Girls, you can learn a great deal about your young heartthrob by peeking into his room if he invites you over.
  While this may not apply to adults as often (we're not permitted to spy on the first date!) observing what is around him, from the furniture to his favorite magazines, and even his car, may be indicative of the type of man he is.
  

How to Get a Boyfriend by Targeting the Venue If you like "really nice guys", then why are you going to a club? If you are an artist and love creative events, don't bother looking for a guy in the grocery store.
Head out to an arts or cultural festival.
Depending on where you meet the guy, you may find greater similarities in tastes, goals and personality.
In the end, you have to live your life and take "educated chances.
" Finding the right guy is the most important part of the process in keeping the boyfriend.
You're never going to work it out with a guy you cannot "tame", one that doesn't want a commitment the way you're dreaming about.
Choose a man that appreciates your intentions, your heart, and your soul.
With any luck, he has done the same research you are doing and when the two of you finally meet, you will waste no time falling in love.