How to Avoid Paying For Women"s Attention on a Date - Part 3
I don't think it's a good idea to start off with a woman by paying for things.
It's much better to allow her to like you and feel attraction for you without the distraction and expense.
If you understand how attraction works, you can trigger it using your body language and communication.
No money required.
Then, if you want to enjoy dinner or a drink at one of your favorite places, invite her to join you.
Don't ask her if you can "take her out".
This will make a very powerful impression.
Trust me.
- The flip side of this coin...
There is another "dark" side to this whole conversation.
It's the idea that men feel obligated or indebted to a woman when the woman spends time with them, gives them attention, etc.
If you're out with a beautiful woman who obviously has many men who pursue her, it's easy to get into the mind set of "I have to do extra things, buy her gifts, and go the extra mile to compete with the other guys".
Sometimes emotions come up that make you feel like you want to "show her" how you feel for her early on...
after only knowing her a short while.
Or even worse, many guys feel like they owe a woman something because she' gone out with them and/or had sex with them.
And often, this "something" is either "dinner and gift payments" or a relationship.
You must realize that even the most beautiful women in the world want more than just "payment for their time".
Attractive women have dinners, money, and gifts thrown at them constantly.
You're not going to do anything to make her more attracted to you by doing these things.
As you know, I talk a lot about the concept of attraction.
Attraction is the powerful sexual emotion that you feel when you want to be intimately and romantically involved with someone of the opposite sex.
Men typically feel it when they see a beautiful woman.
Women typically feel it when they're in the presence of a man who knows how to communicate with that part of her that triggers her attraction "mechanism".
Most guys either don't know this, never figure it out, or don't pay attention to it.
Instead of learning how women work, and doing those things that will trigger her attraction, they just make the same mistakes and beat their heads up against the same walls over and over.
And they do things like asking women out to dinner, buying flowers and trying to pay for attention.
It doesn't have to be this way! If you're one of the guys who has been paying for women's attention all your life, then do yourself a favor right now and stop it!
It's much better to allow her to like you and feel attraction for you without the distraction and expense.
If you understand how attraction works, you can trigger it using your body language and communication.
No money required.
Then, if you want to enjoy dinner or a drink at one of your favorite places, invite her to join you.
Don't ask her if you can "take her out".
This will make a very powerful impression.
Trust me.
- The flip side of this coin...
There is another "dark" side to this whole conversation.
It's the idea that men feel obligated or indebted to a woman when the woman spends time with them, gives them attention, etc.
If you're out with a beautiful woman who obviously has many men who pursue her, it's easy to get into the mind set of "I have to do extra things, buy her gifts, and go the extra mile to compete with the other guys".
Sometimes emotions come up that make you feel like you want to "show her" how you feel for her early on...
after only knowing her a short while.
Or even worse, many guys feel like they owe a woman something because she' gone out with them and/or had sex with them.
And often, this "something" is either "dinner and gift payments" or a relationship.
You must realize that even the most beautiful women in the world want more than just "payment for their time".
Attractive women have dinners, money, and gifts thrown at them constantly.
You're not going to do anything to make her more attracted to you by doing these things.
As you know, I talk a lot about the concept of attraction.
Attraction is the powerful sexual emotion that you feel when you want to be intimately and romantically involved with someone of the opposite sex.
Men typically feel it when they see a beautiful woman.
Women typically feel it when they're in the presence of a man who knows how to communicate with that part of her that triggers her attraction "mechanism".
Most guys either don't know this, never figure it out, or don't pay attention to it.
Instead of learning how women work, and doing those things that will trigger her attraction, they just make the same mistakes and beat their heads up against the same walls over and over.
And they do things like asking women out to dinner, buying flowers and trying to pay for attention.
It doesn't have to be this way! If you're one of the guys who has been paying for women's attention all your life, then do yourself a favor right now and stop it!
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