Do You Really Want Your Ex Back? Find Out Now! 4 Steps to Get Her Back Fast If That"s What You Want
; stop wasting all your time! The 4-part answer is neither hard nor complicated; Just follow these steps and your life will likely improve.
Step 1 - Objectively examine the reasons you and your lover have separated.
Write down the reasons as simple statements on paper; state issues from her point of view as well as yours.
Combine your issues and your ex's issues in a single column because, in truth, you BOTH own whatever happens in the relationship.
Make certain you write down specific facts or behaviors rather than accusations, excuses, or blame.
Find the truth reasons you two broke up and make sure those issues are already resolved or can be totally resolved even before you start thinking about reconciliation.
Step 2 - Try to separate yourself from the hurt and emotional pain you are experiencing.
You want to deal with your ex as a mature adult who wants to reconcile differences and rebuild a relationship rather than as an emotional needy child who can be cajoled or bribed into acceptance of old ways or submission.
Remember that for the first few days of a brake up you're not thinking rationally but emotionally, so give sometime to yourself, to your ex in order that both of you can make rational decisions and to find out if it is really worth it to fight for the relationship in the first place.
Step 3 - During the period of separation or for several weeks after the breakup, force yourself to visit friend and go out.
Use the time to revisit the single life; you might be surprised how much you enjoy it.
Try to have some fun on your own, after all life is still happening, so enjoy it.
Step 4 - Offer but don't assume that you can reconcile differences in your relationship.
Both parties are responsible for the path a relationship will take.
Don't compromise if you can't accept the results.
Insist on evidence of a change in behavior rather than a promise of or hope for some future results.
Following these 4 steps, could very possibly help you return to the pleasures you once experienced but also help you build a better, more loving relationship in the future; with your ex or with any future relationship down the road.