That first date or telephone call can be intimidating.
What will you talk about? You don't want the conversation to grind to a halt while you stare at each other or hang uncomfortably on the line.
If you find a lull in the conversation, there are some simple questions to ask that can jump-start things and give you a bit of insight into each other's personalities.
· What is the most recent movie you've seen? What did you like/not like about it? · What is the last book you read? Why did you choose it? Would you recommend it? · What type of music do you enjoy? · Where did you go to school? Are you putting our degree to good use, or did you switch careers? · What is the best place you've ever visited? Why? · What is the one spot in the world you would most like to visit? Why? · What's the most interesting thing that happened to you this week? · Who are you closest to in your family? · What was your first car? · What was the first job you ever had? · What was the worst job you've ever had? · What do you like to do to relax? · Do you have a pet? What is he/she like? · What is your favorite childhood memory? · If you won the lottery, what would you do with the money? · What is one talent you have that most people don't know about? · What is your favorite web site? · What is the best party you've ever attended? Some of these questions will work well for you, others may seem like they aren't a good fit.
But you should be able to find several interesting questions to get things started.
You may also find that these questions will spark some other questions you come up with on your own.
Keep the questions light-hearted and remember that you should ask questions you are willing to answer yourself so that it's an exchange of information, not an interrogation.
You'll soon be laughing together and learning all kinds of interesting insights about each other.