Lack Sexual Self Confidence Can Make You Afraid Of The Opposite Sex
I am sure there have been times when you knew somewhere in your gut that someone was attracted to you, but then you started second-guessing yourself.
You wondered whether or not you were getting the signals straight, if they really were interested or were simply being friendly, and if that cute guy or woman could really be attracted to you or if it was just your imagination.
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Lack sexual self confidence can make you afraid of trusting your own judgment and natural instincts.
You doubt your ability to attract and or keep the man or woman you want, so you hold yourself back and play it safe.
You do this so you don't need to experience that sting of rejection and disappointment.
But because your sexual presence is cautious instead of intense and your flow of sexual energy is minimal or superficial, you, in that moment, attract a man or woman who is easily distracted and or you end up failing to make the one you are with feel you intensely and deeply.
2.
Lack sexual self confidence can make you underestimate your strengths, abilities and attractiveness.
You constantly self-depreciating "so-and-so is so together, why am I not like that?" "What is lacking in me that makes other men/women better than me?""I should have known I couldn't handle it?" "What made me think someone that attractive would even be interested in me?" This is when you really have to try hard and hang in there just to sustain even a conversation or date.
You can even intellectually know all about the right moves, techniques, tricks, and routines, and even know how to decode flirting and seduction body language but your own body fails you because it lacks that vitality and fluidity that says "sexually fascinating"; and your body may get sexually excited and aroused but your faulty sexual programming (sexual beliefs and attitudes) gets in the way and messes it up for you, every single time.
Most of the time, you end up creating unnecessary stress, opposition and antipathy.
Men and women treat you as someone who has nothing valuable to offer.
3.
Lack sexual self confidence can also make you appear fake and shallow.
You really want to appear a certain way so you over-do it -- try to look sexy, talk sexy, act sexy etc.
This ends up not working so great and you end up looking silly and/or coming across as shallow and insincere.
The opposite sex feel that you're just PUTTING ON AN OUTWARD SHOW (a person with social charisma but with no sexually charisma) and treat you as having very little or no long-term relationship value.
And even when a man or woman shows interest, you either jump in headlong too fast and put the other person off, or you move too slowly careful not to make a mistake only to end up making a truly costly one -- killing even the little spark of interest that was initially there.
Ouch!
You wondered whether or not you were getting the signals straight, if they really were interested or were simply being friendly, and if that cute guy or woman could really be attracted to you or if it was just your imagination.
1.
Lack sexual self confidence can make you afraid of trusting your own judgment and natural instincts.
You doubt your ability to attract and or keep the man or woman you want, so you hold yourself back and play it safe.
You do this so you don't need to experience that sting of rejection and disappointment.
But because your sexual presence is cautious instead of intense and your flow of sexual energy is minimal or superficial, you, in that moment, attract a man or woman who is easily distracted and or you end up failing to make the one you are with feel you intensely and deeply.
2.
Lack sexual self confidence can make you underestimate your strengths, abilities and attractiveness.
You constantly self-depreciating "so-and-so is so together, why am I not like that?" "What is lacking in me that makes other men/women better than me?""I should have known I couldn't handle it?" "What made me think someone that attractive would even be interested in me?" This is when you really have to try hard and hang in there just to sustain even a conversation or date.
You can even intellectually know all about the right moves, techniques, tricks, and routines, and even know how to decode flirting and seduction body language but your own body fails you because it lacks that vitality and fluidity that says "sexually fascinating"; and your body may get sexually excited and aroused but your faulty sexual programming (sexual beliefs and attitudes) gets in the way and messes it up for you, every single time.
Most of the time, you end up creating unnecessary stress, opposition and antipathy.
Men and women treat you as someone who has nothing valuable to offer.
3.
Lack sexual self confidence can also make you appear fake and shallow.
You really want to appear a certain way so you over-do it -- try to look sexy, talk sexy, act sexy etc.
This ends up not working so great and you end up looking silly and/or coming across as shallow and insincere.
The opposite sex feel that you're just PUTTING ON AN OUTWARD SHOW (a person with social charisma but with no sexually charisma) and treat you as having very little or no long-term relationship value.
And even when a man or woman shows interest, you either jump in headlong too fast and put the other person off, or you move too slowly careful not to make a mistake only to end up making a truly costly one -- killing even the little spark of interest that was initially there.
Ouch!
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